Wednesday 26 October 2011

How do you explain in a professional way you and your boyfriend broke up to co-workers?

I broke up with my boyfriend today after weeks of going back and forth deciding if we could make it work. He had very bad mood swings, he could have been the nicest guy ever and the next he was emotionally abusing. I want to make this easy to get through as possible, I work with all girls at a bank who are all talking about their b/f and husbands everyday.....what is a way I can let them know w/o having to answer a ton of questions as to why we broke up and what happened? I also need to let my boss know I changed my phone number...and to add I have pics up at my desk of us that I need to take down too, I%26#039;m just afraid ppl. asking me what happened will cause me to be emotional so I%26#039;m trying to avoid it. I thought of sending my boss a short email since we are all pretty close.|||Let your boss know what is going on. As for the others you can just say we broke up and I don%26#039;t really feel like talking about it right now. Hopefully they will leave it at that until you feel better about it and can tell them what a jerk he was!|||Don%26#039;t make a big deal about it. If anyone asks, just say you are no longer together. If they press for more information, just say that it is a private matter and you don%26#039;t want to discuss it.|||Go and tell your boss in person, and your boss can tell the rest of the team by taking each one aside quietly. Your boss can then say to them %26quot;Look, she%26#039;s feeling a bit fragile at the moment so just show her you support her without interrogating her.%26quot;


If you need to take a bit of time off too, I%26#039;m sure they%26#039;ll understand.|||You don%26#039;t . It%26#039;s none of their business. You shouldn%26#039;t be talking about that at the office anyway.|||First of all it%26#039;s no ones business. And you work in a bank. Not on a Soap Opera show. You own no one an explanation.


Don%26#039;t be afraid. Just tell them you%26#039;d rather not discuss your private life at work.


If you really find it hard to not chat about it? Just tell them you both came to an agreement to split for awhile to work out some personal things. And leave it at that.


They then should understand your reason for taking down pic%26#039;s.


Take care %26amp; all the best to you.|||You can simply say %26quot;We tried to make things work, but we just weren%26#039;t right for each other%26quot; leave it at that...you don%26#039;t need to go into details.|||If people do ask, just say we are not with each other anymore and leave it at that. If they push the issue, just kindly say you would not rather talk about it.





Inform your boss of the number change. You don%26#039;t have to explain. If he pushes about why you did it, just say you have been getting calls and no one is talking on the other end. You don%26#039;t have to give any information to anyone if you don%26#039;t want to.|||just say, %26quot;we%26#039;re no longer a pair. sorry, i don%26#039;t want to talk about it.%26quot;|||If you have a job where it would be normal to go to your boss and tell them about your personal life, then have the boss spend his/her day calling in the other employees one by one to discuss how to treat you properly in your emotional time, then you work in a sitcom and not real life.


Just give your boss your new number. No explanation needed. Take down your pictures. Again, no explanation needed. If someone asks you about your relationship, say, %26quot;We are no longer together.%26quot; They press you? %26quot;It wasn%26#039;t working out. I prefer not to discuss it.%26quot; I get that you are close at work, but work is for work, not for airing your personal business, especially when it is uncomfortable.

Buying from a listing online from someone I do not know?

How can I tell if it%26#039;s a scam? The actual listing that I saw was for Yorkie puppies at $100 each. The listing also said that the family lived in Pensacola, FL, which is where I live. When we started emailing though, it turns out that they are in Barcelona. They did ask questions of me, like if I have owned a dog before and if I have the means to care for the dogs. Below is the last email from them. First of all, is there any way to pay the $150 safely that I know can be refunded if it%26#039;s a scam?





%26quot;We only need the transfer of ownership papers to get them over.I knew that by the grace of God our babies were going to make it into a caring home.The laws here in Spain are quite different from the laws in the


states and so the transfer of ownership papers must be done here if not the Spanish custom authorities at the airport will not allow the puppy to to be shipped out of Spain .We are willing to separate the puppies if you only want one.I will be shipping from the Barcelona international airport.All we will need is the change of ownership papers and so we can book a flight for any of the puppies. The certificate for the change of ownership is a legal document that certifies that the puppies have been transferred to your ownership and care.The change of ownership papers will cost $50 for each puppy and $100 for both puppies .If you are ready we can have the papers done today and so we have any ship to you by evening or tomorrow morning depending on when the papers will be signed at the ministry of Livestock and Animals Transportation.





We will require the following information and so we can fill on the transfer of ownership papers:





-your full names


-Home address


-The names of the closest Airport to your Home


-Your phone number





.We will use the Delta Cargo or Air Europa Cargo because there are very efficient in


pets transportation and they always insure pets before shipping .They also offers home delivery services but you will have to pay an extra $50 if you will want the puppy to be delivered to your door steps.They also have well trained vet specialist that will take proper care of pets during flight.As soon as you are ready to wire the money let me know


and so we can have things started .You can call me using my universal satellite cell phone number +2287455998. We hope to read from you.Have a nice day.GOD BLESS YOU.


Thanks


Dr Bent%26quot;





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http://www.oodle.com/view/doll-faces-xma鈥?/a>|||Google puppy scam, these are one of the most common internet scams. Nobody is going to ship a puppu from Spain to the US, nobody. They want you to send money for shipping and insurance and youll never see the puppy as it doesnt exist


Do an ip address lookup of the emails they are sending and chances are these emails are from W Africa, not Spain


Dont send any money ever. Go to a local shelter or local breeder where you can see the dog before you ever pay anything for a puppy


http://www.akc.org/news/index.cfm?articl鈥?/a>


http://www.consumeraffairs.com/news04/20鈥?/a>


http://forums.gumtree.com/about150631.ht鈥?/a>





Also, +228 phone numbers are from Togo in West Africa. There is no reason why an American in Spain would have a phone number from Togo. And do you really think there is a government ministry anywhere in the world called %26#039;the ministry of Livestock and Animals Transportation%26#039;?|||The first red flag is the ad saying they%26#039;re in Florida, the US, and they%26#039;re actually in another country- also, actually an entirely different phone number in the ad from the one you got from their email. The second red flag, to me, I can%26#039;t really put a finger on, this whole thing just screams %26quot;SCAM%26quot;.





I wouldn%26#039;t chance it. Not at all. There are plenty of verifiable, legitimate pups in the US. Why take this risk?

How do you politely tell everyone in your class the !@#$ off and do their own work?

SERIOUSLY.


last year everyone used me.


people would just grab my homework and start copying when they didnt do it last night


when i correct homework then say i have to give them a 100%


when there is a test people steal my study guides or they demand i print a copy for them


i get frequent calls on how to do our homework (mostly %26quot;what are the answers%26quot;), i eventually changed my voicemail so it sounds like i changed my phone number.


if i have 2nd period math and someone has 4th, they ask me what are the questions/answers to the math test


during english when people need a conclusion paragraph or something and we have to turn something in NOW, i write one for them, then the teacher compliments THEM when she reads them and that person acts like she was a genius


people ask me to do drawings in projects and stuff becuase they claim they suck but um i kind of have a life and need to finish my project too?


i frequently rewrite my friend%26#039;s essays (they are really bad) but she doesnt seem to remember or care... i kind of ditched her since she used me so much xD





looking back at all this I admit i was a stupid idiot to be such a pushover, but people are still going to bother me next year, i need a way to tell them to eff off.


i mean i don%26#039;t mind helping people but i kind of think i%26#039;m helping them cheat by doing their work and i hate cheaters..|||Yes, you have become the easy option: %26quot;Just ask Ally.%26quot; It%26#039;s easy to do, isn%26#039;t it? Part of why is because it%26#039;s an ego stroke for you to help other people, to know the answers and be known as knowing the answers. Aren%26#039;t you a little bit worried that if you stop sharing your brilliance people aren%26#039;t going to like you any more? I%26#039;m afraid it%26#039;s a burden you are going to have to bear. You can%26#039;t just stop helping people, since some of them might genuinely need your help. However, you can thin the ranks by saying this: %26quot;Mr/Ms X told me that she knew I was doing other students%26#039; work and that if it continued, she would mark me down for cheating and I%26#039;m not prepared to take that risk, sorry.%26quot; Rewrite this so it sounds natural for you and stick to it. Good luck.|||You brought this on yourself by allowing it, and allowing them to get away with such activity.





Unless you stand up for yourself, then you will continue to get the same treatment and no Yahoo answers is going to solve that problem for you.


Report cheaters to the principal.|||Tell them you%26#039;d love to help them out, but, if you did, you would be the one who would get into trouble. Better yet - tell them you hate cheaters and you%26#039;re not going to do their work for them. Be brave. If nothing else, it will tell you who your real friends are, - the ones that accept what you say. The others that turn away from you, weren%26#039;t your friends in the first place.|||hmmm. If i was in your shoes I would say,





%26quot;Shut up you superficial freaks who dont have half the brain to do your own work. You know how stupid you really are. You%26#039;re gonna end up a human FAILURE. (excentuate failure) Youre never gonna get the rest of your education and youre gonna be one of those homeless people pushing around a cart, digging for recycleables. Do your own effing work or is it that you know that you are gonna fail you pathetic leech. A parasite, thats what you are. A pathetic leech who feeds off of other people because you have no brain. (By this time if they arent already backing off or looking mad continue and make up some more.)





Then turn your back and smile and say %26quot;See ya.%26quot; If you suspect that you might get jumped or beat up, learn self defense. (I actually took ballet and that sorta helped.) ^_^|||No one can take your answers, your study guide or anything else without your permission.





Just say no. Works for drugs. Works for homework too.





Next time you do your homework, do two versions. The one that available for them to copy and the one you pull out of your pack and turn in when the teacher asks.





When they accuse you of doing something wrong to them, just say %26#039;bite me%26#039; (or whatever passes for that these days) Do your own work.|||Why don%26#039;t you just start giving them the wrong answers?





Have a fake homework for them to steal and copy.


%26#039;Correct%26#039; their answers incorrectly ... or don%26#039;t correct them, but say they%26#039;re fine.


Give them study guides riddled with errors.


Tell them the wrong answers to homework or tests.


Write them a poor concluding paragraph.


Draw them inaccurate diagrams.


Tell people their bad essays are fine.





I know it seems harsh, but when they get a few bad marks they%26#039;ll learn they can%26#039;t just use you and have to do it themselves. Years ago, I had someone who constantly copied my spelling tests; one day, I spelt them all incorrectly. She copied the incorrect ones, but I quickly changed them. She got 0, whilst I got 10/10. She doesn%26#039;t copy anymore.





I%26#039;m like you: I%26#039;m always fine with helping people. I get together with people in study periods if they ask for some help with homework, I even invite them to my home during holidays for some help if they want it. But I never do the work for them, just go through the method.





It doesn%26#039;t sound as if they people you %26#039;help%26#039; really appreciate it. I know, I know - a good deed is its own reward ... but it%26#039;s nice to think someone really appreciated what you did. Luckily, the people I help do, even though they did all the hard word - I didn%26#039;t sit there in the exam, telling them the answers.





So yes, that%26#039;s what I would do - remove the source of their good marks until they stop mercilessly using you and begin to appreciate any help you do give them.|||yea when I was in high school I used to cheat a lot and copy everyone else%26#039;s papers too. I didn%26#039;t harass anyone about it though|||Easy start giving them the wrong answer and problems and when they start getting bad grades they will leave you alone.

How to hide your home address from stalkers?

I have a stalker I guess you could say? I received very detailed and creepy text msgs from someone today saying I see you neigbor and telling me what I was wearing so I knew they actually could see me. With a little prying I found out who it was, an old friends ex bf. He made some very disturbing comments about my face being all over online, and that my address was even on there! Im terrified! I do have a facebook but it is set to private and I mean private! No one can msg me, no one can look me up, I have spent a great deal of time making sure that it is very private. I dont know if he was lying or what but everything he said was the truth, he knew way to much and when he saw me he was by my apt!! How can I find out if my address is online? Or if there are pictures of me? %26amp; How can I keep this very personal info private? Changing my phone number this week, and thinking of deleting facebook, I only have 20 friends on there and I really dont want to have to delete it as I love playing yoville on there lol.|||Once your information is on the internet, it stays there, I%26#039;m afraid. If your information and everything was truly leaked, then you can%26#039;t do anything about it.|||I think having a stalker as a woman is very honourable, it means you are so good in some ways that someone spends all his time on you to stalk.|||the first thing is did he ever come into your apt with your old friend, a piece of mail with your address

laiding out is one way a stalker get your personnel info, he might of follow you around getting to know your activities without you even knowing, your old friend could have told where you live to him that%26#039;s all he need,i doubt it was a online thing,contact the police and tell them your problem with this person and save the text msgs so the police can know and talk to this person if you let it go it can become dangerous
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  • Help me if you've ever got your husband or wife to come back?

    My husband and I have been married for 7 months and about 3 months ago he left, over some jealousy issues and his family was encouraging the leave. I was helping my sister with the youth group at our church and some of the kids started texting me. The one that the problem was over was a 17 year old male. He said 鈥榣ove you鈥?a couple times, but in my church we say that. I鈥檓 not justifying it because it was wrong, but nothing to leave over. We were together for 5 years, before we got married. My husband left that day (in August). Right after the leave, he told me he wanted to work things out and get counseling. Then about two weeks later, he filed for divorce. He changed his phone number so for about a month, I couldn鈥檛 call him only email, but he would never respond. I called a couple times to his parent%26#039;s house for him and his father said %26quot;stop calling here, WE got rid of you%26quot;! By the way, since 8th grade and dated, his parents never liked me, and didn鈥檛 approve of us dating. Didn鈥檛 even approve of us getting married.


    In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don鈥檛 love you anymore. I don鈥檛 miss you. We鈥檙e going through a divorce.


    In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he鈥檚 contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don鈥檛 get me wrong, it wasn鈥檛 for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him 鈥淒o you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won鈥檛 come when I ask.


    He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn鈥檛 service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.


    In December, it鈥檚 gotten better. We鈥檙e talking more, he鈥檚 coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won鈥檛 answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he鈥檚 not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?


    Let me know if you have any questions about any detail?











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    Also, he made a facebook when he left and won%26#039;t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying %26quot;If you don%26#039;t want to talk to me anymore just tell me%26quot;!!








    No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.








    His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn%26#039;t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.|||You need to give him an ultimatum...it is either you or his parents...I don%26#039;t mean his parents should be out of his life but they should not rule it either...you have to tell him if he cannot stand up to them and be with you (always not when he wants to) then he needs to stop coming over and calling you and follow through with the divorce.





    Letting him come back when he wants to allows him to use you (I know it is easier said than done, when you love someone you want every minute you can get with them) it lets him have you and allows him to seemingly obey his parents. It cannot continue in that manner for long...





    The fact is his parents are over protective of him to the point of destruction(i.e. your marriage) he has to let them know their place if he wants to have a relationship(marriage) with you.|||listen to Mariah Carey we belong together.|||you asked this question already!!!!!|||Not only have you asked this before, but I%26#039;m thinking the answer is still the same...... neither of you, hon, was really ready to make a commitment in a marriage. You%26#039;re both too young..... babies. You%26#039;re in an uphill battle if his parents don%26#039;t like you from day one, and these people will indeed be in your married life for the rest of it. Surely, sweetie, you are worth more that this crap. Surely.|||aww sweetie, dont put up with this anymore! put your foot down. This guy sounds like the biggest jerk. A 17 year old guy texting you? you didnt do anything wrong! This %26quot;man%26quot; sounds very selfish and he probaly thinks he made a big mistake. I wouldnt try to make this marriage work. I know it hurts but you must realize that you deserve so much better. You drove to see him and he kicked you out? that is just so wrong and you dont do that to someone you love. I dont want to hurt you anymore but it sounds like he doesnt love you. In this case, stop trying to fight for this because obviously he%26#039;s not fighting for you or this marriage. He isnt worth it, please do yourself a big favor and leave this loser for good. I promise you that there is better.|||He%26#039;s finished with you but likes to get laid now and then and you%26#039;re an easy mark. He%26#039;s taken you from wife to unpaid whore. If you%26#039;re okay with that, fine. If not, you need to cease all forms of contact with him and get on with your life. Maybe a real man will come into it someday.|||WOW you are very naieve and young. You need to get on with your life and leave him behind. You%26#039;re not living you are existing in a world of hope....he made his choice and uses you to HIS liking. Are you that worthless to let someone take advantage of you in that way. Love isn%26#039;t like this and when someone truly loves you, you will think back to this and think my gosh what the he l l was I thinking. Move on hon, and don%26#039;t even think about looking back, you DESERVE so very much more...really!!! good Luck

    LGBT: What would your reaction to this be?

    My girlfriend and I broke up almost a month ago, and, because she and her sister were harassing me, I ended up changing my phone number and deleting/blocking them both on myspace and facebook. We%26#039;ve had no contact since the night we fought and broke up, but I forgot that one time I had given her my e-mail. Well, today I received an email from her, saying as follows:





    %26quot;i have a question for you. will you be my girlfriend again? i know this probably sounds quite strange. but i need you. and i know ill see you every day at school, but weve gone too far now to not be that way, and we both know i love you too much, and so do you. so why dont we just go down that road again, because the whole point of relationships is to grow closer and stronger together. and when we get into fights like the one we were just in, thats a vital part of the relationship. and belive it or not, that made me love you even more. and i will tomorrow. and it also made me realize how pointless life was without you in it. god, it was terrible. and i wont have it that way again. you will never leave my thoughts for more than a few minutes, and i will never stop loving you. we need to be together. youre too much a part of my life to let go of, in any way, shape, or form.and deep down, you want it too. i know you do. ive never been loved by anyone the way you love me. i know this will work. so, what do you say?%26quot;





    How should I react to this? I mean, I%26#039;m pretty sure I don%26#039;t want to get back with her, but...well, how would you respond (emotionally and, to her) about this?|||If you%26#039;re %26quot;pretty sure%26quot; you don%26#039;t want to get back with her then just tell her you need some time to figure out what you want and what you%26#039;re willing to do.





    Honestly, I applaud you not wanting to get back with her. If she%26#039;s participated in anything which you consider to be harassing, its just not smart to go back with her. At the same time, however, you probably want to let her down easily because she sounds like someone who might act out if she%26#039;s disappointed or hurt or rejected or whatever.





    I think I%26#039;d really take some time and consider how I felt about her, the relationship, being away from her, being with her, all those things and just decide if its something I%26#039;d be willing to work with again.





    Good luck to you.|||You can just tell her, you don%26#039;t wanna be with her!


    And say how you feel, but not in a rude way!|||I wouldn%26#039;t go back with someone who had been harassing me. It must have been pretty bad. If you break up again they might harass you even worse than the previous time.|||I don%26#039;t know how serious your relationship or the harrassing me, but if I was in your situation, I wouldn%26#039;t get back together with her, in fact, I%26#039;d think that she%26#039;s trying to pull a prank on you, I don%26#039;t want to get that idea in your head, but that%26#039;s just what I think, sorry!|||You have a stalker. Take action before it gets out of hand. First the phone.....you changed your number. Now email....and a clingy, needy one at that, in which she claims that she could %26#039;never let you go %26#039;in any way shape or form.%26#039; What%26#039;s next? Camping out under your bedroom window? I%26#039;m serious. Things like this can get dangerous. She is stalking you and you need to do something before it gets ugly.|||I would either ignore her, or email her back and say its too late, she should of thought how much you meant to her before she start acting childish and harassing you. Tell her she burnt her bridges with you, and she%26#039;ll have to just get over you, like you got over her. Say actions speak louder then words, and the last action you go was her picking up the phone to curse at you, and got her sister involved. Shes a waste of your time|||I would just be true to myself and it%26#039;s the best thing to do. You don%26#039;t want to pretend you like her. It will only bring more fights. If you don%26#039;t want to be with her, tell her how you feel.|||Do you really want to go through that kind of verbal abuse again. If you go back to her and then break up again she might verbally abuse you again. I think it is wrong of you to go back to someone that might hurt you again. Don%26#039;t buy into her sob story either. It is just her trying to get some sympathy.|||That message is more than a little creepy. She%26#039;s a stalker.|||She%26#039;s going to have to move on whether she likes it or not. If she really loves you then she wouldn%26#039;t have harassed you with her sister.|||Yea that is a bit creepy but then again she might have realized how dumb it was to break up in the first place BUT if you dnt wanna get back with her then tell her that your feelings have changed and you don%26#039;t wanna be with her. in time ya might be able to be friends but right now no.... or yes if u even wanna be her friend haha....

    Father who denies your baby?

    Ok, I%26#039;ll admit it... I was dating a total a**hole. So I left him and cut off all contact (even changing my phone number, email, etc) but I just found out I am pregnant.





    I know if I go to him now and tell him I am pregnant that he will be angry and rude about it. He will deny it for sure and accuse me of being with other people and that the baby is not his, and he will not want to be with me or be a part of anything to do with this child.





    Has anyone else been in this situation? Any ideas on how I should go about all this? I don%26#039;t want him to ruin such a happy time for me!|||I think you should let him know. And if he does deny his baby, then don%26#039;t contact him again.|||Why bother? If you%26#039;re happy, have your child and raise him/her.|||i wouldn%26#039;t tell him right know i would wait until you had the baby so you can make him take a dna test to prove to him its his baby|||just tell him, and if he denies it get a blood test done. if the baby is his, he will have to pay for it, but if its not you will. and also, it will be his loss if he wants to miss out on a little miracle. good luck and congrats.|||You can prove paternity with DNA testing, and then he can legally give up all rights. It sounds like that shouldn%26#039;t be a problem.|||I%26#039;ll will suggest you to tell him... but don%26#039;t go by yourself. Go with someone you trust... if his rude well just leave it and enjoy your pregnancy... Congratulations God bless you!!!!|||if you know his contact info.. wait until the baby is born, have a police officer serve him papers to court.. when the DNA test comes back, he will have to pay for it, if he ha denied the child is his, and he will have to make payments..


    but remember, him denying that it is his, will help you earn full custody.


    his child support payments will come off his cheque from work so you wont miss any|||since he%26#039;s an asshole and you decide to left him. You want nothing to do with him anymore but now why would you want him to be with you? (that%26#039;s what you wrote)





    Tell him that you%26#039;re pregnant with his child. If he deny, request a dna test after the baby%26#039;s born.|||My daughters dad was with me and just because i was talking to other guys he asked for a DNA test the asshole.. The whole pregnancy was a continuous fight between us.. He saw her at 6 wks and saw him in her so that was the end of that he sees her every 2 months if not more.


    I am 10w2d with my 2nd. different dad bt this one is refusing to believe the baby is his. he says its medically impossible to get someone pregnant. So all i am going to do is just leave him out of the picture. If he pulls his head in and actually wannts a part of bubs life he can if not then its his loss





    There isnt much u can do. Just tell him and when bub comes you have 2 choices


    1. Go thru child support and make hiim get a DNA test, Or


    2. Let him decide how he wants to go. There isnt much you can do.


    Some guys are just assholes. Bub only needs one parent to love them.


    At the end of the day its your decision.


    You might be suprised. If he was an asshole to you before u were pregnant do you really think he will change when u have a baby.,|||I think its best to not get the courts involved unless you need the child support. If hes a angry and mean person then you should just feel bad for him because he hates himself and his life and he is emotionally immature. My babys father is a jerk and is exactly what you described. I contacted him and told him and he has ignored me. I kept messaging him and everything and being nice to him when he was mean to me, over and over again i just encouraged him to be in his life. Regardless how mean he is, you should try your best to be nice to him and give him love. Thats what he needs is love anyway, otherwise he wouldnt act like he is. Im not saying let him walk all over you, but im saying be mature and have a adult loving relationship with this guy.After months and months of him being a jerk and/or ignoring me he finally came around a few times. His heart melted when he saw his baby, deep down they know its their baby. And i totally understand that your happy right now and thats awesome, but that baby is going to have a hole in his/her heart if she/he doesnt know who their blood father is or what he looks like or anything like that.|||let a summons tell him. if you answer a few questions about your relationship with him to a court and they determine that it is likely he is the father of your baby they can court order a paternity test that he can%26#039;t weasel his way out of. if he%26#039;s an asshole all he%26#039;s going to do is try and convince you to abort and make you feel bad about being pregnant (been there done that) through the whole 40 weeks. if he%26#039;s proven to be the father than he%26#039;ll have to pay child support and it will grant him the right to visitation although it is unlikely he%26#039;ll use it. he should know eventually but don%26#039;t let him ruin your special time.|||im 13 and have a 14 month old son i didn%26#039;t tell my baby%26#039;s dad until he was 1 month old his dad is a complete asshole to . now he is in prison.|||i would be sooo distressed having to bring up a child on my own..good luck, i don%26#039;t envy your situation at all..

    What if your boyfriend lies to you about talking to his exgirlfriend?

    my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years now and he has never lied to me about anything before. but about a year ago he lied about being in contact with his exgirlfriend, who he claimed to hate incredibly because of the hurt she caused him. I have heard his friends say how horrible of a person she was and how much hurt she made him feel so when he started talking to her it made me weary. I knew he was talking to her but he wouldnt admit it until finally i forced it out of him and he said he didn%26#039;t want to tell me because he didn%26#039;t think I would understand. I admit that I can be self-conscious and worry about things I shouldn%26#039;t. Then he said he didn%26#039;t want to talk to her anymore and changed his phone number and everything was amazing until the same thing happened again and he started talking to her and lied by omission. I just want him to tell me the truth. I told him that if he lies again I won%26#039;t be able to continue on with our relationship because its already caused a lot of issues with me. He agreed and has been telling me if she talks to her, which i am so happy about. but i%26#039;m afraid he%26#039;s going to continue lying to me about things involving that.


    he%26#039;s an amazing person and we love each otehr so much and I do trust how much he loves me. I just want to know if I am out of line to think that something else might be going on or if I shouldn%26#039;t be upset.


    I have told him every feeling I have inside of me about what happened and he said he never wanted to hurt me and is sorry that he did. but then I just don%26#039;t understand why he talked to her in the first place since he said that if he told me he knew it might hurt me.


    i%26#039;m just confused. humph.|||You%26#039;ve already given him one chance too many. He%26#039;s proven to you that he can%26#039;t be trusted when it comes to his ex. Seriously, you need to leave him. He isn%26#039;t over her.





    This same thing happened to me and I ended up wasting 3 years of my life. The longer you stay, the more painful it will become.

    How to forget the love of your life??? [LADIES]?

    Alright so me and my ex broke up about 3 years ago because we didn%26#039;t have time to see each other and she has completely gotten over our relationship and she%26#039;s engaged to some clown that%26#039;s cheating on her.

    The thing is i still love her as if it was yesterday. I miss her sweet scent.

    We were together for 2 and a half years and i love everything about her.

    I tried to get in touch with her after we broke up but she changed her phone number, ignored all my messages on myspace and facebook (deleted me from facebook) and i tried going to her house but her dad told me i wasn%26#039;t welcomed there.

    I have tried to forget her. I was at 90% even though sometimes i get a lil extra depressed and drop a tear or two.

    Today she dropped by the place i work and bought two birthday cards, and i was the one that rang her up.

    I said hi! to her but i was so astonished i didn%26#039;t know what else to say to her and i had my supervisor asking me to answer the phone. She was in a hurry and acted as if she didn%26#039;t know me, but she did say hi back and smiled.

    After that all the memories and good times i%26#039;ve been trying to bury at the bottom of my heart came out and now i can%26#039;t stop thinking of her. I love her. I miss her so much.

    How do i forget her? Could somebody please help me?

    What should i do? she%26#039;s kinda holding me back from fulfilling my love life. There are a bunch of other nice girls i%26#039;ve could have been going out with over the past 3 years but i can%26#039;t because i don%26#039;t have any feelings for them and i don%26#039;t wanna lie to them and use them for sex.

    The last chic i went out with called me %26quot;STERILE%26quot; and i haven%26#039;t dated anyone else ever since. I felt bad because shes a nice classy lady, but ya i am sterile.|||Your not facing reality, she has never suggested there will ever be you two again.......she does not want you in her life. Your living in the past, move forward and enjoy your life. You will never forget her and you will always think of her fondly, but thats it.|||Right here is the answer my friend. It helped me through a whole lot of hard times :] Feel better honey!





    http://www.hai2u.com/|||keep busy, men....there are other important things to do...live your life to the fullest..u can find another, trust me... u can!|||you%26#039;re doing the right thing by not going out with other girls when u do not have feeling for them



    you know what, wait a bit longer, i mean maximum 2 years, if the person who she is engaged to is a really two timer, then she for sure will realize that and break up with him. The sooner she gets married to the RAT the better, coz then she%26#039;ll realize she hates him faster, and then when she needs you the most, be very very supportive, later propose when its the right time for you to propse. apologize first|||You need to realize that you need to get over the past before you can move on to the future. Just know that there is someone better out there for you, you may not have met her yet. Trust me when you find the one she will not want to let you go!|||Wow. That%26#039;s pretty intense.

    Well, it seems as though the best thing you could do to forget her would be to find someone else.... someone better.

    That always works.



    You say that she is the one holding you back from fulfulling your love life, but that%26#039;s a load of crap.

    YOU are what%26#039;s holding you back. YOU are the only thing standing in the way of finding someone you love even more than her. YOU are the one who is creating the problem. YOU are the one who has to solve the problem. So solve it.



    You have to move past yourself in order to move forward.|||awww im sorry... ok this happens around me wayyy too much and btw im a girl and the best way to forget something is to stop making urself think about it. if u need anymore help send me a msg... ill help u any time :) i have plenty of other ways u can get over her just msg me and ill give u some tips....|||take it from someone who wasted a year of my life chasing down a girl that I was madly in love with only to be left feeling rejected, and without my closest friend that I had spent years getting to know. it%26#039;s a crappy feeling being in love with someone that has moved on from you but somewhere in everyone is the ability to move on. we tried to be friends but I was so in love with her that it didn%26#039;t work out and for months I was depressed and missed out on life. all I wanted to do was lay in bed and think of some magical way to get her back in my life.



    the first step for me was wanting to move on and it was also the hardest. nobody ever wants to move on from loving someone it seems like such a silly thing to do and goes against everything we know to be romantic. but at some point you have to realize that it%26#039;s hurting you and holding you back from being happy. it took a few weeks but once I realized that and got serious about getting over her it was much easier on me and things have been great since. I even managed to convince her to be friends again and she%26#039;s by far the best friend I have and we are both in happy relationships. is there a part of me that still wonders where things could be if we were together? sure, but I%26#039;m not going to let that keep me from being happy.|||you face the same things to me I do first look it%26#039;s shock direct to my heart at that time I just 17 years old now I%26#039;m 42 going 43.... I really love to she him and the way he is. After I get my result of high school and I get not so good result and I repeat again than the second one I get more better and I went study in oversea. before I go to overseas I try to see him and I want to tell him what%26#039;s my felling..



    I go to the place he work actually I don%26#039;t know his name either and what department he work...coincidence I shaw he went inside one car and before living security who pass by and ask the person what%26#039;s that guy name... %26quot;that person not so sure but they know all the office in the because it%26#039;s government official building. So he said I%26#039;m not sure but one of them he mention to me the name (secret)..



    Look! this is the different between you and me you already together for 2 and half years and me never know his name and he never know me never talk I only see him from far..



    This is what I try to tell you I believed he is my first love to the end..I never believed I will see him again such a long time 1985 - 2004, than from 2004 sometime I see him at his office and go lunch until 2006 I told him %26quot;I love him%26quot; that also only through phone I was out station and the hold day we talk on the phone I postpone all my meeting just to tall with him. until the next day I loss my flight it%26#039;s really different life after he know I love him. Than 2007 his wife found on his hp my sms. just I said good morning, darling! I fell wrong and sad too..



    more sad went I go to Europe and he don%26#039;t pick up m call, reply my sms and I send present I send to him he never reply until the second month I in Europe.. he said thank you and told me he%26#039;s busy.. I understand for his jobs...but I thank you until 3 month we meet again on and off the reason I want him to be free let him to think what he want, what he like etc and same to him because of his wife, children and family means his responsible person and I want him to be what he supposed to be and so I respect him to all this reason.. understand very well..



    I divorce with my husband early this year because I fill guilty to him, he%26#039;s nice and very good man. I fell this is the best way because if we can not trust one to the other and keeping somethings in our hearts so better let it be free to one the other... we still stay in one home for the children purpose and we still be good friend and partners in the business. Even though we already divorce we must respect one to the other and never look back see what the future and never blame each other. But before we take action or decision give one to the other s change to correct our self...



    I try to ignore not to remember him but it different after you said the word I love you than before he never know I love him... before I remember him but now worst more worst.. but I control my self and said to my self if he in my God will help me and I believed even though I%26#039;m not his wife but I always in his hearth good enough for me to be happy...



    So please believed to your self and to make him never forget you send a letter/card to her, flower and chocolate on her birthday, chrismax, valentine let said 4 time a years. do tell about your frustration just to asking how she is, how your healthy, family somethings that not to discuss about you and him from you start first.



    his family not accept you the letter/card or any things you want to send by post or delivery and not to forget to send card try to find them to like you.. example send card or somethings for chrismax...



    never force be natural.... God always be with you and good luck hope you get what you want..|||from a ladies%26#039; point of view, women just don%26#039;t end relationships so something must have happened for her to take such drastic action. The not having time to see each other is not an excuse to end a relationship. If two people really want something to work, they make the time to see each other. She%26#039;s moved on and you need to do the same
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  • This e-mail is floating around the internet rearding cellphones. Does anyone know if this is true?

    5 THINGS YOU NEVER KNEW YOUR CELL PHONE COULD DO


    There are a few things that can be done intimes of grave emergencies. Your mobile phone can actually be a life saver or an emergency tool for survival. Check out the things that you can do with it:





    FIRST Emergency


    The Emergency Number worldwide for Mobile is 112. If you find yourself out of the coverage area of your mobile network and there is an emergency, dial 112 and the mobile will search any existing network to establish the emergency number for you, and interestingly this number 112 can be dialed even if the keypad is locked. Try it out.





    SECOND


    Have you locked your keys in the car?


    Does your car have remote keyless entry? This may come in handy someday. Good reason to own a cell phone. If you lock your keys in the car and the spare keys are at home, call someone at home on their cell phone from your cell phone. Hold your cell phone about a foot from your car door and have the person at your home press the unlock button, holding it near the mobile phone on their end. Your car will unlock. Saves someone from having to drive your keys to you. Distance is no object. You could be hundreds of miles away, and if you can reach someone who has the other %26quot;remote%26quot; for your car, you can unlock the doors (or the trunk). Editor%26#039;s Note: It works fine! We tried it out and it unlocked our car over a cell phone!%26quot;





    THIRD


    Hidden Battery Power


    Imagine your cell battery is very low. To activate, press the keys 3370# Your cell will restart with this reserve and the instrument will show a 50% increase in battery. This reserve will get charged when you charge your cell next time.





    FOURTH


    How to disable a STOLEN mobile phone?


    To check your Mobile phone%26#039;s serial number, key in the following digits on your phone: * # 0 6 # A 15 digit code will appear on the screen. This number is unique to your handset. Write it down and keep it somewhere safe. When your phone get stolen, you can phone your service provider and give them this code. They will then be able to block your handset so even


    if the thief changes the SIM card, your phone will be totally useless. You probably won%26#039;t get your phone back, but at least you know that whoever stole it can%26#039;t use/sell it either. If everybody does this, there would be no point in people stealing mobile phones.





    FIFTH


    Free Directory Service for Cells


    Cell phone companies are charging us $1.00 to $1.75 or more for 411 information calls when they don%26#039;t have to. Most of us do not carry a telephone directory in our vehicle, which makes this situation even more of a problem. When you need to use the 411 information option, simply dial: (800) FREE 411, or (800) 373-3411 without incurring any


    charge at all. Program this into your cell phone now.|||The first one works in some areas of the world.





    The second is FAKE. There%26#039;s no way a cell phone can transmit and reproduce an RF signal from an alarm transmitter. (http://www.snopes.com/autos/techno/keyle鈥?/a> , http://www.breakthechain.org/exclusives/鈥?/a> )





    The third only works with some phones, but is not exactly unleashing hidden battery power.





    The fourth works on most phones to get your IMEI number, but cell phone carriers already have it in their system.





    The fifth is true.|||I know the fourth and fifth ones are true. I%26#039;m not sure about the others though. It cant hurt to try them.|||My girlfriend I%26#039;ve known 1/2 my life still emails me from time to time, and told me about the 112 thing......... But, as far as the rest, I had no idea about all of this!!! Very informative!! Thank-You, so much!! I copied your whole thing here, so that I can show my brother, and my sister when they come down!! In case their not aware of this already!! so, I thank-you very much, for all of this information, hun!! Its really good to know. Smile!!!|||i know the second works too, hubby was at work, 25 miles away from me, and we unlocked the car through the cell phones. 4th and 5th are true also, don%26#039;t know about 1 and 3 though ss

    How do you tell your coworkers you broke up w/your bf w/o getting a ton of questions?

    I broke up with my boyfriend today after weeks of going back and forth deciding if we could make it work. He had very bad mood swings, he could have been the nicest guy ever and the next he was emotionally abusing. I want to make this easy to get through as possible, I work with all girls at a bank who are all talking about their b/f and husbands everyday.....what is a way I can let them know w/o having to answer a ton of questions as to why we broke up and what happened? I also need to let my boss know I changed my phone number...and to add I have pics up at my desk of us that I need to take down too, I%26#039;m just afraid ppl. asking me what happened will cause me to be emotional so I%26#039;m trying to avoid it. I thought of sending my boss a short email since we are all pretty close.|||Just tell people that you broke up with your boyfriend, and you%26#039;d really prefer not to talk about it much right now because it was a tough decision to make. Take the photos down, and give your boss your new number. End of story.|||If they ask, just say %26quot;It just didn%26#039;t work out...%26quot; or %26quot;I don%26#039;t really want to talk about it now%26quot;. Most people will get the hint that it%26#039;s still too sore of a topic to dig deeper.|||It sounds like you really don%26#039;t need input from co-workers since this is a personal and emotional issue. Since you are close to your boss, I would approach the boss and tell them privately you changed your number as the result of closing doors to that relationship. You want to get past this and thought they needed to know. I%26#039;d take down the pictures and replace them with ones that are of pleasant things, could be other family, a pet, motivational phrase and try to make light of it if asked. Practicing being over him will help and you will get past this and see a brighter future. Best wishes.

    I really need help with my iPhone 3g 16gb?

    I have an iphone 3G and i quickly changed my pass code really quickly and now i cannot remember what it is at all and when i try and enter a code i have to wait for a minute to enter it in again and if i get it wrong another time then it goes to 5 minutes and so on... so i need help on how to remove the pass code, can you like enter your phone number on a itunes account and it will unlock it or something





    please help!!!!|||Restore your iphone using itunes. If you can%26#039;t even restore it that way theres one last way. Close itunes (make sure your iphone isn%26#039;t connected to your computer) %26gt; turn off your iphone (hold the sleep/wake button) %26gt; hold the home button on your iphone and connect it to the computer (it will go in recovery mode) %26gt; itunes will open up and ask you if you want to restore %26gt; click yes and your will reset after sometime.





    You may lose your contacts (if your didn%26#039;t sync them with your computer), but you will be able to use your iphone after this though. Good luck.

    Christians, do you have a difficult time with your family? I mean do you fight with them a lot?

    and do they fight back with you? What do you do in that situation? I have noticed more and more people are fighting with each other either verbally or phisically. I do not get along with my mother and wish to wipe her out of my life forever. I will forgive her in time but not now. My 2 nephews which are twins and are 15 years old are fighting with each other all the time calling each other names most of the time, my 12 year old daughter and her brother who is almost 14 fight all the time calling each other names. My sister and my mother hate each other? Is this happening in your family too? I have had enough. I need to know how you handle it. The only thing I can do to get away from it is th change my number and move address. Life is getting more complicated all the time, and more difficult to live in. I find I cannot live in this life much longer, any advise for me, as the advise I will give myself is to change phone numbers and to move.|||HELLO ....LEANNE M


    FAITH


    CANT STAND WICCANS


    TRUTH


    LEANNE


    WHAT IS IT NOW%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;LIFE IS HARD?


    Why do you complain so much? You get what you give out.....


    You dont have a problem showing your hatred to everyone.....


    Now it has come back to you. SIMPLE.


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    How do i handle my life?


    Better than you do obviously!!


    I spent yesterday surrounded by family, it was one of the nicest days i have ever had........See what you give out comes back........


    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~


    TRY WORKING ON YOURSELF, BEFORE EXPECTING EVERYONE BEND TO YOUR INSANE WAYS!


    Ariel


    )O(|||I am sorry that there is so much pain in your family. My family is all gone now. I have no one. I am an only child with no children of my own. I got along well with my father, not so with my mother. I was young then. Hopefully in time you will be able to talk with your family and be at peace. They are more precious than you know. You would miss them dearly if they were gone.|||Well it sounds like you have a wonderfull life........enjoy it.


    HAHAHA


    They show you hatred because they know you are a false lying hatefull evil pig.


    The same as we here on YA do....


    Hurry up and go to that hell, where you belong!

    Can you restart the twitter thing from your phone?

    so on twitter it said that i could tweet from my phone like regular messages all i had to do was text start to a number well when i did it asked for my username and i misspelled my username on the computer when i changed it and when i text the username to the number i put a username but it WASN%26#039;T mine basically im asking is how can i restart it or what? please help please!!(: and please no dumb answers|||Hello

    on this page you get

    the solution for your problem!



    http://help.twitter.com/forums/31935/ent鈥?/a>
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  • Your wife can change your life.....?

    Dear Sir,





    I am Subu.Sudheesababu aged 30, and a native of Varkala (S/O Late. Mr. A.Sudhhesa Babu (PA to Govt. Chief Secretary) Kunnamkulam House, Trivandrum district, Kerala). Presently I am working as a Geotechnical Engineer with a MNC in U.A.E. I did M.Sc in Marine Geology (2002-2004) and M.Tech in Ocean Technology (2004-2006) with First Rank from School of Marine Sciences, Cochin University of Science and Technology, Cochin, India. While I was working on my MTech project in Institute of Reservoir Studies, ONGC, Ahmedabad, I came across a marriage proposal from a UAE business family through the matrimonial advertisement. Me and Ashi Ashokan, (D/O.Mr.K.Ashokan, Ponkaruna house Thottam, Manacaud, Trivandrum) married on 6th April 2006. Since I was a student, Ashi%26#039;s father offered me a cash cheque for meet the marriage expenses. I initially rejected the offer but later gave up after Ashi%26#039;s father successfully persuaded me to accept the same. One week after marriage she left from my home and went to U.A.E. In July 2006 I completed My M.Tech course and on 8th July I went to UAE. When I was in U.A.E I had stayed with her in her home in Ras Al Khaimah. I was unemployed and I depended on them. My father-in-law behaved arrogantly towards me. He doesn%26#039;t know how to behave to others. After reaching UAE he continuously tormented me, mentally and physically. Since he is uneducated, I ignored his acts/comments. After reached uae her father continuously persuaded me to take a bank loan for his business purpose, but I am not agreed with him so that One a particular day he behaved like a mad dog, and tried to assault me, and he forced me out of the home for the whole night. Later, on my own effort, I attended the interview and was selected and joined Dubai Arab Center for Engineering Studies as an Engineering Geologist. During these days my wife (Mrs.Ashi) was working as a secretary to the marketing manager, RAK White Cement Company in Ras Al Khaimah, UAE. Things started changing when I had a minor verbal exchange with my father in law (Ashi’s father) regarding my wife and her well being. Everything worked fine for few months and we (me and Ashi) shifted to a new house. While I was in office, as part of the conspiracy my wife took my permission to leave my house on the pretext to attend a three days company business meeting at Muscat Hotel, Trivandrum, Kerala. I granted her instant permission and also helped her in shopping and personally dropped her at the sharjah International Airport on 10th January 2007. After reaching Kerala she stopped contacting me and all my efforts to contact her failed. Later I realized that all these days I have been constantly cheated. She opened my bank locker on 11th January 2007(SBT, Kadakkavour Branch, Locker No: 157) with a fake authorization letter and took her gold. I couldn%26#039;t believe my ears and to find the truth. By the advice of her mother I resigned my job and returned to Kerala on 16 th January 2007. Once I reached Kerala I learnt that my wife returned to UAE on the same day. Soon after she told me that she no longer wished to live with me and requested me to divorce her under mutual consent. Since I loved her very much and since the issue can be resolved through mutual understanding, I refused that plea (initially). But I totally failed to settle those matters. After couple of weeks she lost her job at RAK cements due to some illegal relation with a person working in the same company. After the fake business meeting when I try to contact her mobile phone, then after I received a shameful SMS message from her number. As evidence I am still keeping that message in my phone. As relating to these incidents I tried to move more legally and filed a case (CMP No 1157 of 2007) regarding to the bank locker operation. Then her family engaged thugs to harass me. In order to avoid confrontations and for my personal safety I had left from Kerala. When I was in Mumbai her father had arranged some dons for assassination, to cut the story short by the grace of God still I am alive. Since this plan didn%26#039;t work out, she again came back to Kerala on April 2007 on the advice of her father and filed some fake cases against me, including dowry harassment / Domestic Violence and Cyber Crime (Crime no. 166/CR/TVM/07/U/s 488(A) IPC and 67 of IT Act.) It should be noted that Ashi stayed in my home in Varkala for only one week after marriage. Soon after that we moved to Ras Al Khaimah, where we lived in Ashi%26#039;s father%26#039;s house. Under these circumstances, how can I or my parents harass her? Even if we assume that these incidents took place, why didn%26#039;t Ashi and her family report this to the police instantaneously? This confirms that all the allegations are fabricated and hence false. She already knew my email password she / somebody create that fake orkut profile in order to get divorce and compensation latter filed a fake cyber case against me. Recently I received information that she got the ex-parte di|||What the hell is this ****?|||this is the longest question I%26#039;ve seen on here.2 pts.|||yeah, give her divorce.|||uh whats the question again?|||you cannot expect people to read this





    this is spam.





    REPORT|||It%26#039;s not as bad as it seems. I think if you give her the divorce you will be ok. You don%26#039;t sound like you have a lot of money so what she is after is a divorce. You may have dodged a bullet here. Cut your losses and move on with your life.

    Your Wife Can Change Your Life..........?

    Dear Sir,





    I am Subu.Sudheesababu aged 29, and a native of Varkala (S/O Late. Mr. A.Sudhhesa Babu (PA to Govt. Chief Secretary) Kunnamkulam House, Trivandrum district, Kerala). Presently I am working as a Geotechnical Engineer with a MNC in U.A.E. I did M.Sc in Marine Geology (2002-2004) and M.Tech in Ocean Technology (2004-2006) with First Rank from School of Marine Sciences, Cochin University of Science and Technology, Cochin, India. While I was working on my MTech project in Institute of Reservoir Studies, ONGC, Ahmedabad, I came across a marriage proposal from a UAE business family through the matrimonial advertisement. Me and Ashi Ashokan, (D/O.Mr.K.Ashokan, Ponkaruna house Thottam, Manacaud, Trivandrum) married on 6th April 2006. Since I was a student, Ashi%26#039;s father offered me a cash cheque for meet the marriage expenses. I initially rejected the offer but later gave up after Ashi%26#039;s father successfully persuaded me to accept the same. One week after marriage she left from my home and went to U.A.E. In July 2006 I completed My M.Tech course and on 8th July I went to UAE. When I was in U.A.E I had stayed with her in her home in Ras Al Khaimah. I was unemployed and I depended on them. My father-in-law behaved arrogantly towards me. He doesn%26#039;t know how to behave to others. After reaching UAE he continuously tormented me, mentally and physically. Since he is uneducated, I ignored his acts/comments. One a particular day he behaved like a mad dog, and tried to assault me, and he forced me out of the home for the whole night. After suffering his atrocities later on my own effort, I attended the interview and was selected and joined Dubai Arab Center for Engineering Studies as an Engineering Geologist. During these days my wife (Mrs.Ashi) was working as a secretary to the marketing manager, RAK White Cement Company in Ras Al Khaimah, UAE. After getting the job her father continuously persuaded me, to take a big amount as bank loan for his business purpose. Things started changing when I had a minor verbal exchange with my father in law (Ashi鈥檚 father) regarding my wife and her well being. Everything worked fine for few months and we (me and Ashi) shifted to a new house. While I was in office, as part of the conspiracy my wife took my permission to leave my house on the pretext to attend a three days company business meeting at Muscat Hotel, Trivandrum, Kerala. I granted her instant permission and also helped her in shopping and personally dropped her at the sharjah International Airport on 10th January 2007. After reaching Kerala she stopped contacting me and all my efforts to contact her failed. Later I realized that all these days I have been constantly cheated. She opened my bank locker on 11th January 2007(SBT, Kadakkavour Branch, Locker No: 157) with a fake authorization letter and took her gold. I couldn%26#039;t believe my ears and to find the truth. By the advice of her mother I resigned my job and returned to Kerala on 16 th January 2007. Once I reached Kerala I learnt that my wife returned to UAE on the same day. Soon after she told me that she no longer wished to live with me and requested me to divorce her under mutual consent. Since I loved her very much and since the issue can be resolved through mutual understanding, I refused that plea (initially). But I totally failed to settle those matters. After couple of weeks she lost her job at RAK cements due to some illegal relation with a person working in the same company. After the fake business meeting when I try to contact her mobile phone, then after I received a shameful SMS message from her number. As evidence I am still keeping that message in my phone. As relating to these incidents I tried to move more legally and filed a case (CMP No 1157 of 2007) regarding to the bank locker operation. Then her family engaged thugs to harass me. In order to avoid confrontations and for my personal safety I had left from Kerala.


    When I was in Mumbai her father had arranged some dons for assassination, to cut the story short by the grace of God still I am alive. Since this plan didn%26#039;t work out, she again came back to Kerala on April 2007 on the advice of her father and filed some fake cases against me, including dowry harassment / Domestic Violence and Cyber Crime (Crime no. 166/CR/TVM/07/U/s 488(A) IPC and 67 of IT Act.) It should be noted that Ashi stayed in my home in Varkala for only one week after marriage. Soon after that we moved to Ras Al Khaimah, where we lived in Ashi%26#039;s father%26#039;s house. Under these circumstances, how can I or my parents harass her? Even if we assume that these incidents took place, why didn%26#039;t Ashi and her family report this to the police instantaneously? This confirms that all the allegations are fabricated and hence false. She already knew my email password she / somebody create that fake orkut profile in order to get divorce and compensation latter filed a fake cyber case against me. Recently I received information that she got|||What happened is history, life is a mystery and full of challenge face it. If you are not satisfied with what happened you must analyse and learn from your mistakes and become a wise man.


    Life is a great teacher we are all students.


    You have two option either to laugh or cry. I prefer you laugh and learn and move ahead.


    Life is short to regret.|||Anything can happen.|||Yea i know what you mean..|||Sounds to me like she was forced by her father to do what she did.


    He is a bad person.|||i m not going to read just replying for my 2 points....|||That is waaaay to long. I didn%26#039;t come on here to read a novel.|||Is it worth to leave with cheater, game player, dominant fraud and low life people, your call. if you don%26#039;t have kids divorcee her or else try to resolve this behaviour in presence of her and your relatives. gather all the facts and contact lawyer. her signing the letter to access your bank locker is same as stealing

    How long does it take for a text message to fail - Mobile Phone Question.?

    I sent a text on thursday but it did not deliver. I have tried calling the phone and i get a long silence and then a message saying it has not been posible to connect your call please try again later.





    What does this message mean. Could he of changed his number. Also how long will it take for my text to fail?





    I am in the UK.|||Text messages are stored on the provider%26#039;s system for 3 days whether or not you set the validity to one week or maximum,if atm your text cannot delivered to the recipient because it off or out of coverage.Untill the recipient number was completely dead, you wont be alerted with different sentences from the provider.|||changed number/phone is off


    depends how long your settings allow. go into message settings and see how long the message validity is.

    How do u get the disney's friends for change song (send it on) as a ringtone on your cell?

    I want some way to get it for free if possible and i don%26#039;t have a cord to connect to my phone i need something where i can just type my number in to get the ring-tone.|||http://www.myventones.com





    Ventones is a FREE ringtone creating and sharing site.


    you can even make your own ringtones and wallpapers


    and they send them inside a text message

    Cell phone harrasment today. Scam? Prank call? What could it be? Sorry- long question.?

    So I got called today by what I thought was a wrong number. They asked my name %26amp; I told them %26amp; asked if they had the wrong number. I guess they didn%26#039;t because they kept calling back. I was curious so I answered. They were not being rude, just asking how I was, if I spoke French and at one point asked for me to call them but I said no of course. They would get out like 5 words before they would hang up or get disconnected. For like an hour, they called like 10/15 times. I was getting really mad and like the last 5 times they would not speak. My husband said threaten them with the cops so I finally said I was calling the cops and they said %26quot;oh bye%26quot; and hung up and never called back. During this, I called my cell phone carrier and asked if there is any way to tell where this call was from and she didn%26#039;t think twice she just said %26quot;no, I can%26#039;t help you,%26quot; %26quot;maybe just put it in the internet.%26quot; Lot of help she was, but my husband put it in the internet and it said the number was from Mali (western Africa), main language is French. I am wondering if anyone heard of something like this before. I mean that would be a really expensive prank call especially when the majority of Mali is under the poverty threshold. I probably shouldn%26#039;t of answered the phone 10+ times but I am hard headed and wanted to know what the heck was going on. I heard of a scam where places would try to get you to call them back and then they would charge your phone a TON of money. Anyone know of this scam or any other scam or reason I could have been receiving these calls? Thanks for your help! I am worried now and will probably change my number.|||I think it was something like you said. If you called them back there is probably something they could do. I think you should report it to the police. You probably can look it up on the internet for the type of scam it is.



    You were smart not to call them back.|||they migh have tried to scam you because i lately saw this on the news where people from africa call people around the world and ask them for there info and give them a reason for them do give them there info.... what you should have done is go to the police and tell them about this|||Never give any information over the phone. Who knows what the game was, but just having a person%26#039;s name can give leads to other information for those who criminally use phone call scams to gain personal information.|||maybe they spoofed the caller id, changed it to be something else and then called you
  • ittwit
  • horrible cat
  • This is how you hack the samsung a series phone!?

    Go this route instead.





    Samsung SGH-a737


    Howto install games with Bitpim and cable…





    All the info herein was obtain by others on various forums… All credit goes to them.





    This is all re-packed info in one area. I or anyone else is not responsible for information given. It is the responsibility of the user only. WARNING! You may break your phone.





    Now the information I obtained was the easiest and/or most effective way to install Java mobile phone games on the Samsung SGH-a737 mobile phone.





    Items needed:





    1. Samsung SGH-a737 phone and usb phone to pc cable. This phone uses a Qualcomm chipset.


    2. Bitpim – I use Bitpim v1.06 – All future versions should work.


    3. Qualcomm usb drivers. – This was hard to find. “Qualcomm_USB_Trieber.rar” – They are actually modem drivers or at least that is what they show up as on the pc.


    4. The engineer code number *#0523# This is the only number needed to access the phone. There is another number that functions the same. That number is longer and not needed.





    Now for the steps involved.





    1. Install Bitpim. Reboot the PC.


    2. Enter *#0523# into the phone. This will bring up a menu. Press the # key four (4) times. Press menu option [9] common. Next press menu option [6] USB Configuration. Next press [2] Qualcomm USB. The default is [1] Samsung USB. Qualcomm USB is needed to make Bitpim function. After that the screen will read. Qualcomm USB configured. Plz reconnect the cable.0 Reboot the phone for the change to initiate.


    3. Install the Qualcomm usb drivers. Plug in the phone to the pc. When the PC asks for drivers. Point to the folder where the files where unzipped. The computer will find two sets of drivers. The first is the USB set and when that is finished. The PC will ask again for drivers. Again point to the folder where the drivers where unzipped. This will be the modem diagnostic drivers. This second set is what functions as the connection between Bitpim and the phone. Reboot the PC.


    4. Now set Bitpim up.





    Taken from:


    drizzt1666


    13-03-2008, 04:27 PM








    Step 3: - Transfering java files on to your phone


    Install and start BitPim on your PC.





    3.1. On top at the menus go to: Edit %26gt; Settings. Then: Phone Type: Other CMDA Phone. At the Com Port there is a button called Browse. Here you will choose the Qualcomm Diagnostics Interface 3197 device, it should be in the list of available ports. (This step will set the phone connection.) (This will find the com port needed for connection.)





    3.2. Then go to View %26gt; View Filesystem. In the left side the tree will pop up and you will see a thing called %26quot;Filesystem%26quot;. Click it, and next to it, another tree will be there with a / sign. Click the %26quot;/%26quot; and open it. After a few seconds you will see your phones full memory. (If Bitpim is not finding the phone that means the com port is not located. IE. You may have click on Qualcomm USB driver instead of the Diagnostics Interface 3197 device. Which is the correct com port. The other reason. The phone was not rebooted after you set the Qualcomm driver in the phone.)





    3.2a. IMPORTANT:%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; AT THIS POINT BACKUP YOUR PHONE DB. Here’s how. In Bitpim’s browser window showing all the files and folders on the phone. Go down from the top of the list until you see the folder “/DB2/phonedb/backupDB”. Open this up and save/(backup) the file “PHONEDB.00”. Save this file to the pc. This file/or folder will be saved a zip file.





    3.3. Go to Media %26gt; Games (/Media/Games) folder. You have to copy here your Java stuffs. I highly recommend that put each program in a separate folder (making new folders: right click on the Games folder in the tree view and %26quot;Make subdirectory.%26quot;. Copying files: right click on the empty space in the right side and %26quot;New file.%26quot;). You can only copy 1 file at the same time! You will need both .jar and .jad files in order to make it work (if you have .jar only then use JADMaker to create the .jad file).





    THIS SECTION CONTAINS A WARNING! FINISH READING BEFORE DOING…





    3.4. When you finished copying games to the phone. You can go back to the folder “backupDB” and delete the file “PHONEDB.00”. (See step 3.5 first) Then turn you phone off and then on again. Reboot. Doing this you may stand to loose you phones address book and or other important information not tied down. So before you do this. Back up everything you like about your phone. I used PC STUDIO v3.1.3. Just in case. It turns out. I did not need to worry. I lost nothing. What “PHONEDB.00” does. This is a data base for the phone. So if you delete it. The phone needs a new one. So on Reboot. The phone OS system looks at all the files and databases them. That is how the Java games get recognized by the phone. This bypasses the phone hacking with numbers thing.





    3.5. If you finished with all the transfers and deleting the file “PHONEDB.00”. Close BitPim and pull of you phone from the cable.





    5. Useful files: mpowerplay Try games out.


    BTW if you JAVA games don%26#039;t have a .JAD file you can download JADM|||Sure.

    If you have a debt, but can't pay it because you're unemployed and you want to resume paying off your debt...?

    as soon as you get another job, how can you make a creditor stop harassing you after you have already explained to them that you simply can%26#039;t make payments, but will do after you find a job.





    I%26#039;m desperately trying to get employment because, well obviously I have to eat and pay rent, but also to get this creditor from giving me a bad time calling me very often. I told him that I%26#039;m really looking for a job and that what can I do? I don%26#039;t have money at the moment.





    I%26#039;m tired of this co. of calling me a lot. Maybe I should change my phone number. I just got out of high school and sometimes employers need experience and I don%26#039;t seem to have what they want sometimes.





    Any suggestions as to how to get the creditor from bothering me?|||Creditors must follow certain rules in making collection calls, but there is no rule regarding how often they can call you as long as they make their calls during specified hours (no calls after 9:00 p.m., for example).





    You are probably not dealing with your creditor, but with a collection agency. The agencies don%26#039;t care how much they annoy you. Depending on how their collectors are paid, they may do better by calling you five times in a row than by calling five different debtors.





    If you want to discourage a pesky creditor from calling too often, take his call. Tell him, %26quot;Hold on for a minute; let me grab my checkbook.%26quot; Then put the phone down, grab yourself a beer or a Coke, and return to whatever you were doing. After holding for a minute or less, the guy will hang up. To these guys, time is money, so when you waste their time by making them hold, they will often focus on other debtors and leave you alone for awhile.





    Depending on how much you owe, the agency may, at some point, file a claim against you in Small Claims Court. Worst case, it will get a judgment against you. That%26#039;s no big deal because you%26#039;re not denying your obligation; you%26#039;re just saying you can%26#039;t pay now. Keep a record of every call you get from the collector and, if it%26#039;s disruptive, complain to the judge. You%26#039;re not the only one who can%26#039;t pay his bills right now and a decent judge may tell the agency not to call you more than, say, two times a week.





    Don%26#039;t change your phone number. That may make it look like you%26#039;re trying to dodge your debt. You just need to give the collector as much grief as he gives you.





    I used to work for a large financial services company and had several collectors working for me. The best ones were the nicest ones. They didn%26#039;t threaten or harrass debtors. They showed empathy for the people who were having trouble meeting their obligations. And the nice guys got paid first when the debtor%26#039;s money problem eased up.





    Good luck. And have fun with the arrogant SOBs who harrass you.|||pay your bills and the calls will stop|||Keep talking to them. maintain a sense of humor. When you get mad or communication stops, that%26#039;s when they go to court, and you have to deal with that fuzzy lollipop and the costs and hassles attached.|||all you have to do is write what is called a %26quot;Cease and Desist%26quot;


    letter. In the letter you request that there is no more


    communication in the form of calls or letters. The collection


    agency then has the right to call you one last time. Not to


    ask you for money but to advise you as to any actions they


    have planned. To be sure send the letter certified mail.


    That%26#039;s it. Your debt will eventually get passed to another


    agency and you will have to repeat the process but it will


    buy you some time

    Can you keep your number when switching from TMobile prepaid to Virgin Mobile?

    I%26#039;m planning on purchasing the new Virgin Mobile WildCard phone soon. My current plan is with TMobile, I use the prepaid service, so there is no contract envolved either. My question is this, I would like to keep my current number, since I%26#039;ve had it about 3 years and everyone knows it, will I be able to do that?





    On Virgin Mobile%26#039;s website, they say you can, but does that pertain to prepaid costumers from another service? How long does the process take and what information will I be asked to give them? And if they can change it, is it reliable? Will I receive all my calls and texts without problems? Would it be less of a hassle to just take the number they give me?|||Yeah you can keep the same number and I can tell you that Virgin is a really nice company to deal with from experience. Unfortunately my son convinced me to get a contract phone from Rogers (so I kept my Virgin number) and believe me I want my Virgin phone back so badly as Rogers has given me nothing but headaches - you wouldn%26#039;t believe some of the charges they try and get you to pay and then try getting good customer service after the sale - impossible!|||yes|||It is federal law that you can keep your existing number; it%26#039;s called number portability. Don%26#039;t worry about it, just tell Virgin when you do the switch.|||yes. you need to call your new company or have the person that is setting up your account call them to set it up. you may have to call the company to confirm it. then in a few hours it should be done.|||yah, i dont know if you can, but ur best bet would be to call virgin mobile, 18883221122

    Would you do sacrifice anything for your spouse?

    I%26#039;ve been having problems w/ my domestic partner of 2 years for the past 4 months to the point that we can%26#039;t live together so she left. We text each other all the time saying how much we should work out and love each other but with so many attempts, it%26#039;s hard to go back together because we go through the same thing. She is a very jealous person and insecure. When we were doing fine, I hardly went out w/ my friends but when she left, I was always with them on the weekends and she knew that because I told her. I was always faithful. She asks me who i%26#039;m texting when my phone goes off all the time. I deleted her off my twitter and myspace account when she left and we broke up. She now demands for me to add her back, get rid of all my friends, and change my phone number...that is her condition that we will get back together and be happy like before. I know this isn%26#039;t fair. I haven%26#039;t seen her in 2 weeks, but she recently told me that she%26#039;s sick. She%26#039;s being stubborn and doesn%26#039;t want to tell me what%26#039;s wrong with her but she has some bump on her neck which the dr%26#039;s think it%26#039;s a tumor, she%26#039;s throwing up, she has constant migraines (which she always has), her body hurts, she%26#039;s depressed, scared and always saying she doesn%26#039;t want to live....i don%26#039;t know what the heck is wrong w/ her but i%26#039;m worried sick and want to be there for her and i%26#039;m willing to give up anything she wants...just so we could be happy together again. I text her or talk to her and tell her i want to be there for her, she tells me she loves me and misses me too, yet she won%26#039;t let me see her. We%26#039;re both scared to get back together because we might end up arguing again...I just don%26#039;t know what to do.



    *note: Counseling is out of the question. She refuses to seek any professional help. I%26#039;m trying to research anything I can learn about anger management, depression, posessiveness, etc. so I can help her myself.|||i think i have sacrifice just about everything for my spouse|||No, I would not sacrifice %26quot;anything%26quot; for him. There are things that are important to me, and I wouldn%26#039;t sacrifice them for anyone. If I feel that the other person is asking for a sacrifice that%26#039;s too great - it%26#039;s not the right person for me; I move on and keep looking. You will not be %26quot;happy together%26quot; if one of you isn%26#039;t happy.
  • grey hair
  • big hair
  • How do you get over your boyfriend "sexting"?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. I have recently found out that he has been %26quot;sexting%26quot; with other girls. Not only through text messages but emails as well. I believe in second chances but every time I see him texting I wonder if it is one of the girls. We talked about how to change this behavior and discussed a few options regarding how to get this out of his life. If he changes his phone number and email should I forgive or jump ship since we have been together for some time? I can%26#039;t discuss this with any of my friends because I feel humiliated over this. I just need some suggestions. Am I wrong to forgive? How do you forget and move on??|||first of all let me say...i love how u said %26quot;sexting%26quot; wow thats great...im sooo gonna use that now..lol....umm and yea u should b a lil worried. TALK to him, and let him now its not right for him to disrespect you like that.. No female deserves that...yea its just texting, and emails, but that can grow into something more...hope i helped...and i hope you guys talk it out..and no u should never forget and move on, because eventually it will come back around|||Yuck, my husband would never do anything as immature and untrustworthy as this. Think of this as a red flag and dump him.|||sexting is fun... i love it... just forget about that guy, u can do better.|||Tell him that it really bothers you and if he doesn%26#039;t find a way to stop its over.|||Not wrong, but foolish if you do forgive %26amp; forget. Doesn%26#039;t appear the faithful kind. Get somebody better.|||JUMP SHIP!! JUMP SHIP! The guy is an a hole if you ask me he shouldn%26#039;t be doing that if your his GF!!!!|||Dump him... showing his body to anyone but you...





    Get rid of him, for good.|||i think you ought to move on... its only a matter of time before he does the real thing.....|||i believe also that people should g et a second chance. and its really good that you talked it through with him!





    but him changing his cell and emails is not going to work because he was the one to initiate it the first time, so he can easily just do it again! and if you feel paranoid then the best solution is just to in a calm way go and talk to him. dont let it boil up inside!





    also you can forgive and you can move on, but dont forget. im not saying throw it in his face 24 7 or ever but dont forget in the sence of if he does it again, then theres a patern that you need to remember.





    a i also believe that your gut feeling or intution never lets you down, so remember to listen to that if you feel he is lying to you!|||If you have trust issues (can%26#039;t trust your boyfriend) or believe him, you can never have a good relationship! I don%26#039;t know how to ever get over this. I%26#039;ve found that if they do it once, they%26#039;re doing it because they%26#039;re not satisfied with the relationship in some way. I think it%26#039;s time to move on because like I said, a relationship without honesty or trust will never be a good relationship!|||I say, Jump ship


    dont waste all these years of your life onyl to find out that his little %26#039;Habit%26#039; will develop into cheating. he aint gonna stop it! He likes you, yeah i get it. But is is really ok for you to be used until he wants a girl that he is sexting? Get out there, get a real man. Someone who%26#039;s not gonna use you as the backup plan while he flirts with other girls!


    You deserve better!

    If you can fill this out correctly i will choose your answer DMV?

    Virginia Drivers Manual: Rules of the Road





    Complete this worksheet on the computer. Select a different font and color that differentiates from what I have used. Be sure to save your work periodically. This assignment will be turned in via the digital drop box.





    Obtaining Your Drivers License pg 1-18


    1. How old must you be to get your driver鈥檚 license in VA? _______________


    2. How old must you be to get your learner鈥檚 permit in VA? ______________


    3. You must drive at least _________ hours; _________ of the forty must be completed after ______________ to get your license in VA.


    4. when driving on your permit you must be accompanied by a person at least ________ years old or by a _______________________ 18 years or older. The person you are driving with must have a valid VA ___________________________ and be ______________.


    5. Your parents must also certify that you have driven _________ hours; ________ hours must be completed after sunset.


    6. You must hold your permit for ________ months before you are eligible to get your license.


    7. You must be in the classroom for ____________ class periods or hours to complete the driver鈥檚 education classroom portion of your state requirements.


    8. Behind the Wheel is a _____________ hour in car course that can be completed in _________ class periods.


    9. When applying for your license/permit males under 26 usually must register with ____________________.


    10. What is the rule for VA drivers on cell phones and cellular devices if they are under the age of 18.


    11. When you are under the age of 18 and have a learner鈥檚 permit or driver鈥檚 license you many not drive between the hours of ____________ to ________________.


    12. If you are under the age of 18 you many not hold more than __________ passenger under 18. The only passengers that are not restricted are ______________.


    13. True or False: The court has the right to suspend or deny driving privilege for person under 18 if a person has been found delinquent by a court.


    14. What is organ and tissue donation?





    15. If you wish to become an organ or tissue donor you must be at least _____________ years old or obtain you parent consent if you wish to make this decision prior to age 18.





    16. Why might someone choose to be an organ donor? List 3.





    17. What is a CDL?


    18. Do you have to take a special licensure test to become a bus driver?


    19. What steps must you do if you wish to obtain a motorcycle license?


    20. what is an international driver鈥檚 license?


    21. When applying for your permit or license you must show ____ proofs of ____________, Proof of your_________________ number, proof of _______________ presence, and photo copies are _______________ allowed.


    22. You must take a _______________ test to ensure that eyesight and peripheral vision meet VA safety standards.


    23. True or False: You may wear eye glasses or contacts to take your vision test at the DMV.


    24. The written test consist of a ___________ part knowledge exam. The first is a signs test that consist of ___________ signs. You must get a ___________ to pass. The second part is a general knowledge exam. This is a __________ question test. You must get at least ________ to pass.


    25. If you fail the written test you must wait ___________ days to retest and pay ___________.


    26. If needed the test can be taken in _______________ or an audio version can be used to assist with testing.


    27. Fill in the payment chart:


    Test Cost


    Learner鈥檚 Permit


    Driver鈥檚 License


    Replacement License


    Re鈥揺xamination Fee





    28. When you get your first driver鈥檚 license what will it look like? Draw below.





    29. When you turn 21 your license will change. Draw what it will look like below





    30. A driver鈥檚 license is good for 3-5 years and will expire when you reach an age that is divisible by _________ for example 20, 25, 30.


    31. if you change your name or address you must contact the DMV within _________ days.





    32. If needed you may obtain a copy of your driving record at a cost of ____________. A certified record will cost _____________. If you lose your permit it may be necessary to get a copy of you driving record to show the date that you originally had your permit issued to be able to obtain your driver鈥檚 license on time.





    33. Any time you drive you must carry your ______________________. Any misuse of your driver鈥檚 license is a ___________________. You could be fined, sentenced to jail, or your license could be suspended.





    34. If you are not able to follow VA traffic and safety laws you license may be ______________ or ________________.





    35. If you are 18 or 19 after your first demerit point you must attend a __________________________.








    Before you Get Behind The Wheel pg 19- 39


    1. What must have to be assured that your vehicle is properly registered in the state of VA? _______________________ ________________鈥? ________________








    2. Your car should be in good condition to insure your safety be|||If you check the drivers manual from the VADMV, you will find all these answers. us telling you would just be cheating you of the possibility of actually learning this material for yourself, so you won%26#039;t be surprised if the examiner asks you some of these questions, during the actual skills test. |||I already gave you the site with all the answers..........





    http://dmvnow.com/webdoc/pdf/manual/manu鈥?/a>|||How will you know if the answers are correct? Will you actually look them up ?





    If you want someone to do your assignment,,,I use PAY-PAL !!!|||really?|||Why do you want us to do your work for you?

    How to deal with having a child?

    with someone you hate. You know when you make a horrible decision and have children with the most ignorant person possible and you find yourself 6 years later dealing with this person that still has no growth or understanding of women and what it takes to raise a happy and healthy child. The one where when you check your voicemail, he%26#039;s still shouting obscenities at you because he has no concept of why you don%26#039;t pick up the phone in the first place? Anyone please let me know if you are going through the same thing and how do you deal with it. Also, changing my cell phone number isn%26#039;t an option.|||I don%26#039;t know age in this situation, but that really had a lot to do with it in my case. I was that guy, still dealing with that in my own way but eventually I realized how great my children are and that they are Worth fighting for. so if it helps at all to know that guys really can chang, I did might have been a little late for me and my wife but we might b able to work it out, all I know is, in my case it took a very drastic thing to make me realize what I was doing before I stoped, and if he is yelling at you like that he needs help like I did, there are places that can offer that. just do not for any reason allow it to happen in front of your child it will cause lots of problems you don%26#039;t want|||what does your hate for him have to do with the child? i DETEST my middle child%26#039;s father. i wouldn%26#039;t spit on the man if he was on fire. my child looks EXACTLY like him. i have sole residential custody of her. he is still off in his drug world, and i love my child unconditionally. i focus on her, not her sperm donor. change your phone number and just don%26#039;t listen to him.

    How to do find out if your house is bugged and your phone tapped?

    It is not expensive to bug someone%26#039;s house, as was suggested in another Q%26amp;A. You can go to any electronics store and buy simple kits and listening devices. (My oldest son, used to buy electronics kits, for other things, when he was 9yo). Anyhoo.....I have a mentally ill relative, that likes to stalk, harass and torment. My oldest daughter, is very very upset. The police don%26#039;t care and now it%26#039;s seems that this relative, is repeating to others, things that I have only mentioned in my own home, or on the phone. He likes to exaggerate too and ring friends, schools, work. It%26#039;s really really annoying. I%26#039;ve moved a few times, changed my name, got an unlisted number, but he still finds us...My husband died a few years ago and so this relative, thinks I am alone and vulnerable. Not true! I am not a violent person...but he tried to kidnap one of my kids in 2003 (but, we had gone away camping that weekend) and if he tries it again, I may have to enlist Mr. Shovel to help!|||%26quot;How to do find out if your house is bugged and your phone tapped?%26quot; that would require a thorough search of your house.





    As for your relative I really think you should go to the police, if they aren%26#039;t helping you then they aren%26#039;t doing their job.





    If none of these work, have you ever thought of moving overseas?|||how do the police not care that he tried to kidnap your kids?