The menacing nature of each call is a provocation to get you to respond. You win by not playing. If you respond, say, on the thirtieth call, it teaches the caller that he or she will get a response every thirtieth call, or thereabouts. You can expect another thirty calls, then another thirty, and so on.
If you pick up a call from the nuisance caller, say nothing, put the receiver to one side and leave the room. You will have the satisfaction of knowing you are denying the caller the gratification he or she seeks whilst they run up a large phone bill.
Log every call with as much detail about it as you can. This will give you a pattern of calls which will help to identify who is calling (eg always when x is at work or at home etc). If you choose to listen in - without responding - you may be able to hear background noise which might help to identify the caller. Should matters turn legal it would be possible to cross-reference or match the calls you receive with calls made from their source.
Use a phone that displays the caller's id ; abusive callers often withhold their number but note the information anyway (eg %26quot;withheld%26quot; or %26quot;unavailable%26quot;) - even this can prove useful later. If the call originates from an employer the caller may not be able to suppress the number.
If you can arrange it, tape record each phone call. This can prove especially useful if the calls are threatening or menacing.
Some telephones have a switch underneath where you can switch off the ringer, eg overnight or when you're asleep or wish to be available. At unsocial hours you can disconnect the phone from the socket.
If nuisance calls become too much to deal with, get a second phone line, only give this number to close relatives and friends (as few as possible and only one at a time) and put an answerphone on the original line with a recording that is not your voice.
Talk to the malicious calls department of your telephone company. Most are sympathetic and keen to help telephone customers suffering from repeated misuse of their telephone services.
Finally, and most importantly...
Acknowledge a possibility that this could be a real threat .All possible safety precautions should be done for you and your child's safety. Be extra careful.
For further advice check out this page:http://www.njcu.edu/dept/psd/phonecall.a鈥?/a>How would you deal with threats on the phone?ask them on a date then meet them somewhere and throw hot boiling tea on their face. LOL. I BET THEY WILL NOT CALL YOU ANYMOREHow would you deal with threats on the phone?Have any of your neighbours heard the knocking on the door? would one of them go to the police station with you again, get them to patrol round your area more, could a family friend come and stay to help you feel more secure.
The police can trace the phone numbers back to whoever is calling.
If these people have been threatening you with violence then the least the police should do is give you a safety alarm so when it happens again they can get the alert immediately not have to wait for you to phone.Get a cctv camera at your door - either visible or covert
Real ones are not that expensive and if the person thinks that you will be able to see who they are it might put them off. It will also give you evidence to show to the police when they eventually arrive.
Get a male friend or family member to stay over for a few nights, let them answer the phone and/or door.
hope this helps.Stop answering the phone and get an answer machine installed, ask yourself again, do you really want to know who this sicko is, you can ring BT and get them to only allow calls through that you want, they have several systems and will explain it to you, get the police to give you an alarm that goes straight to them when in panic mode, this person is obviously very sick in the mind to be intimidating you in this way and wants your reaction, unfortunately you don't need enemies in today's day and world the sickos pick on anyone, do not let it get to you and surround yourself with anyone who you trust for support and do not let anyone who is not known to you that you are moving either, good luck and try not to let people who are sickos effect your life.BT have a service where they will intercept a call for you.
They ask pertinent questions to assure that person knows you...If they don't know you the call wont go through...If on the other hand..the obscene caller does know you and is playing some sick game to frighten you, then they will trace the caller and prosecute.
No one should be afraid in their own house.
Hope this helps...If some one is trying to intimidate you they are only doing so to create a reaction, in giving them there reaction they will only do more. Get you telephone company to put a block on the line to any number that hides its caller ID. Most likely you will know who is behind the people banging on your door, make sure you are secure and sit tight for the next month.I wanted to find out who was calling also, but it finally got to be too much and I changed my number and had a big fight with someone that I was 99.9% sure was the reason I was getting the calls. GEEZ I'm glad you're moving, but it sounds like someone is trying to scare you - they obviously are too scared to let you know who they are or they would break in. I would try if at all possible to get someone to stay with me for awhileBuy a whistle.
When you receive a threatening phone call - blow the whistle REALLY HARD (for as long as your breath holds out) - then immediately hang up!.....they won't be calling back soon.I think your child's security should come first before your own curuiosity to want to know who that person is! Move on. Get an answering machine, get a relative or friend to stay with you and explain your fears to the police. Request that they make more patroling in that area. Don't you have a local Gov. person whom you can go to? ie: Gov. Community Centres whom you can seek help?I wuold insist that the police install a panic button for you.
You can't live like this.Stay wiv sum1 else, like family members, until you moveYes, get BT to intercept your calls. Also if you have a camera,with a flash keep it handy for when those B..S...Ds come knocking on your door. You just might be lucky enough to catch them on camera. The mere fact that the flash goes off may act as a deterrent to them. You can also buy a toy barking dog that you hang on the inside door handle. I will stark barking the minute someone knocks on your door.
Can you get someone else to come and stay with you until you move, because 4-5 weeks is a long time in the life of a child? Until you do move keep phoning the police it is their duty to investigate threats and intimidation.
I do hope that you get the help you need as you must be scared and very angry at the same time. Try to ignore these yobs as they will only harass you all the more if they know their actions are causing you anguish and it upsets your child. These sort of people have no feelings or thoughts for others and do not care about the misery and pains they cause.
Know doubt you will be so relieved when you both move house, until then keep your pecker up and don't let them grid you down.
All the best to you and your child.have you a answering phone if so dont pick it up untill you know who the person is they will get board of it if you dont answer the phone any more and if you get a chance to speak to this strange odd man tellhim to get a life dont be scared be brave and think sod him hes weird and needs a lot of help by the sounds of things hope you are ok take care and dont worry something will happen to him hell get his cumupanceGet a personal protection alarm and let rip down the phone. No more nuisance calls.
