I broke up with my boyfriend today after weeks of going back and forth deciding if we could make it work. He had very bad mood swings, he could have been the nicest guy ever and the next he was emotionally abusing. I want to make this easy to get through as possible, I work with all girls at a bank who are all talking about their b/f and husbands everyday.....what is a way I can let them know w/o having to answer a ton of questions as to why we broke up and what happened? I also need to let my boss know I changed my phone number...and to add I have pics up at my desk of us that I need to take down too, I%26#039;m just afraid ppl. asking me what happened will cause me to be emotional so I%26#039;m trying to avoid it. I thought of sending my boss a short email since we are all pretty close.|||Let your boss know what is going on. As for the others you can just say we broke up and I don%26#039;t really feel like talking about it right now. Hopefully they will leave it at that until you feel better about it and can tell them what a jerk he was!|||Don%26#039;t make a big deal about it. If anyone asks, just say you are no longer together. If they press for more information, just say that it is a private matter and you don%26#039;t want to discuss it.|||Go and tell your boss in person, and your boss can tell the rest of the team by taking each one aside quietly. Your boss can then say to them %26quot;Look, she%26#039;s feeling a bit fragile at the moment so just show her you support her without interrogating her.%26quot;
If you need to take a bit of time off too, I%26#039;m sure they%26#039;ll understand.|||You don%26#039;t . It%26#039;s none of their business. You shouldn%26#039;t be talking about that at the office anyway.|||First of all it%26#039;s no ones business. And you work in a bank. Not on a Soap Opera show. You own no one an explanation.
Don%26#039;t be afraid. Just tell them you%26#039;d rather not discuss your private life at work.
If you really find it hard to not chat about it? Just tell them you both came to an agreement to split for awhile to work out some personal things. And leave it at that.
They then should understand your reason for taking down pic%26#039;s.
Take care %26amp; all the best to you.|||You can simply say %26quot;We tried to make things work, but we just weren%26#039;t right for each other%26quot; leave it at that...you don%26#039;t need to go into details.|||If people do ask, just say we are not with each other anymore and leave it at that. If they push the issue, just kindly say you would not rather talk about it.
Inform your boss of the number change. You don%26#039;t have to explain. If he pushes about why you did it, just say you have been getting calls and no one is talking on the other end. You don%26#039;t have to give any information to anyone if you don%26#039;t want to.|||just say, %26quot;we%26#039;re no longer a pair. sorry, i don%26#039;t want to talk about it.%26quot;|||If you have a job where it would be normal to go to your boss and tell them about your personal life, then have the boss spend his/her day calling in the other employees one by one to discuss how to treat you properly in your emotional time, then you work in a sitcom and not real life.
Just give your boss your new number. No explanation needed. Take down your pictures. Again, no explanation needed. If someone asks you about your relationship, say, %26quot;We are no longer together.%26quot; They press you? %26quot;It wasn%26#039;t working out. I prefer not to discuss it.%26quot; I get that you are close at work, but work is for work, not for airing your personal business, especially when it is uncomfortable.
Wednesday 26 October 2011
Buying from a listing online from someone I do not know?
How can I tell if it%26#039;s a scam? The actual listing that I saw was for Yorkie puppies at $100 each. The listing also said that the family lived in Pensacola, FL, which is where I live. When we started emailing though, it turns out that they are in Barcelona. They did ask questions of me, like if I have owned a dog before and if I have the means to care for the dogs. Below is the last email from them. First of all, is there any way to pay the $150 safely that I know can be refunded if it%26#039;s a scam?
%26quot;We only need the transfer of ownership papers to get them over.I knew that by the grace of God our babies were going to make it into a caring home.The laws here in Spain are quite different from the laws in the
states and so the transfer of ownership papers must be done here if not the Spanish custom authorities at the airport will not allow the puppy to to be shipped out of Spain .We are willing to separate the puppies if you only want one.I will be shipping from the Barcelona international airport.All we will need is the change of ownership papers and so we can book a flight for any of the puppies. The certificate for the change of ownership is a legal document that certifies that the puppies have been transferred to your ownership and care.The change of ownership papers will cost $50 for each puppy and $100 for both puppies .If you are ready we can have the papers done today and so we have any ship to you by evening or tomorrow morning depending on when the papers will be signed at the ministry of Livestock and Animals Transportation.
We will require the following information and so we can fill on the transfer of ownership papers:
-your full names
-Home address
-The names of the closest Airport to your Home
-Your phone number
.We will use the Delta Cargo or Air Europa Cargo because there are very efficient in
pets transportation and they always insure pets before shipping .They also offers home delivery services but you will have to pay an extra $50 if you will want the puppy to be delivered to your door steps.They also have well trained vet specialist that will take proper care of pets during flight.As soon as you are ready to wire the money let me know
and so we can have things started .You can call me using my universal satellite cell phone number +2287455998. We hope to read from you.Have a nice day.GOD BLESS YOU.
Thanks
Dr Bent%26quot;
original posting
http://www.oodle.com/view/doll-faces-xma鈥?/a>|||Google puppy scam, these are one of the most common internet scams. Nobody is going to ship a puppu from Spain to the US, nobody. They want you to send money for shipping and insurance and youll never see the puppy as it doesnt exist
Do an ip address lookup of the emails they are sending and chances are these emails are from W Africa, not Spain
Dont send any money ever. Go to a local shelter or local breeder where you can see the dog before you ever pay anything for a puppy
http://www.akc.org/news/index.cfm?articl鈥?/a>
http://www.consumeraffairs.com/news04/20鈥?/a>
http://forums.gumtree.com/about150631.ht鈥?/a>
Also, +228 phone numbers are from Togo in West Africa. There is no reason why an American in Spain would have a phone number from Togo. And do you really think there is a government ministry anywhere in the world called %26#039;the ministry of Livestock and Animals Transportation%26#039;?|||The first red flag is the ad saying they%26#039;re in Florida, the US, and they%26#039;re actually in another country- also, actually an entirely different phone number in the ad from the one you got from their email. The second red flag, to me, I can%26#039;t really put a finger on, this whole thing just screams %26quot;SCAM%26quot;.
I wouldn%26#039;t chance it. Not at all. There are plenty of verifiable, legitimate pups in the US. Why take this risk?
%26quot;We only need the transfer of ownership papers to get them over.I knew that by the grace of God our babies were going to make it into a caring home.The laws here in Spain are quite different from the laws in the
states and so the transfer of ownership papers must be done here if not the Spanish custom authorities at the airport will not allow the puppy to to be shipped out of Spain .We are willing to separate the puppies if you only want one.I will be shipping from the Barcelona international airport.All we will need is the change of ownership papers and so we can book a flight for any of the puppies. The certificate for the change of ownership is a legal document that certifies that the puppies have been transferred to your ownership and care.The change of ownership papers will cost $50 for each puppy and $100 for both puppies .If you are ready we can have the papers done today and so we have any ship to you by evening or tomorrow morning depending on when the papers will be signed at the ministry of Livestock and Animals Transportation.
We will require the following information and so we can fill on the transfer of ownership papers:
-your full names
-Home address
-The names of the closest Airport to your Home
-Your phone number
.We will use the Delta Cargo or Air Europa Cargo because there are very efficient in
pets transportation and they always insure pets before shipping .They also offers home delivery services but you will have to pay an extra $50 if you will want the puppy to be delivered to your door steps.They also have well trained vet specialist that will take proper care of pets during flight.As soon as you are ready to wire the money let me know
and so we can have things started .You can call me using my universal satellite cell phone number +2287455998. We hope to read from you.Have a nice day.GOD BLESS YOU.
Thanks
Dr Bent%26quot;
original posting
http://www.oodle.com/view/doll-faces-xma鈥?/a>|||Google puppy scam, these are one of the most common internet scams. Nobody is going to ship a puppu from Spain to the US, nobody. They want you to send money for shipping and insurance and youll never see the puppy as it doesnt exist
Do an ip address lookup of the emails they are sending and chances are these emails are from W Africa, not Spain
Dont send any money ever. Go to a local shelter or local breeder where you can see the dog before you ever pay anything for a puppy
http://www.akc.org/news/index.cfm?articl鈥?/a>
http://www.consumeraffairs.com/news04/20鈥?/a>
http://forums.gumtree.com/about150631.ht鈥?/a>
Also, +228 phone numbers are from Togo in West Africa. There is no reason why an American in Spain would have a phone number from Togo. And do you really think there is a government ministry anywhere in the world called %26#039;the ministry of Livestock and Animals Transportation%26#039;?|||The first red flag is the ad saying they%26#039;re in Florida, the US, and they%26#039;re actually in another country- also, actually an entirely different phone number in the ad from the one you got from their email. The second red flag, to me, I can%26#039;t really put a finger on, this whole thing just screams %26quot;SCAM%26quot;.
I wouldn%26#039;t chance it. Not at all. There are plenty of verifiable, legitimate pups in the US. Why take this risk?
How do you politely tell everyone in your class the !@#$ off and do their own work?
SERIOUSLY.
last year everyone used me.
people would just grab my homework and start copying when they didnt do it last night
when i correct homework then say i have to give them a 100%
when there is a test people steal my study guides or they demand i print a copy for them
i get frequent calls on how to do our homework (mostly %26quot;what are the answers%26quot;), i eventually changed my voicemail so it sounds like i changed my phone number.
if i have 2nd period math and someone has 4th, they ask me what are the questions/answers to the math test
during english when people need a conclusion paragraph or something and we have to turn something in NOW, i write one for them, then the teacher compliments THEM when she reads them and that person acts like she was a genius
people ask me to do drawings in projects and stuff becuase they claim they suck but um i kind of have a life and need to finish my project too?
i frequently rewrite my friend%26#039;s essays (they are really bad) but she doesnt seem to remember or care... i kind of ditched her since she used me so much xD
looking back at all this I admit i was a stupid idiot to be such a pushover, but people are still going to bother me next year, i need a way to tell them to eff off.
i mean i don%26#039;t mind helping people but i kind of think i%26#039;m helping them cheat by doing their work and i hate cheaters..|||Yes, you have become the easy option: %26quot;Just ask Ally.%26quot; It%26#039;s easy to do, isn%26#039;t it? Part of why is because it%26#039;s an ego stroke for you to help other people, to know the answers and be known as knowing the answers. Aren%26#039;t you a little bit worried that if you stop sharing your brilliance people aren%26#039;t going to like you any more? I%26#039;m afraid it%26#039;s a burden you are going to have to bear. You can%26#039;t just stop helping people, since some of them might genuinely need your help. However, you can thin the ranks by saying this: %26quot;Mr/Ms X told me that she knew I was doing other students%26#039; work and that if it continued, she would mark me down for cheating and I%26#039;m not prepared to take that risk, sorry.%26quot; Rewrite this so it sounds natural for you and stick to it. Good luck.|||You brought this on yourself by allowing it, and allowing them to get away with such activity.
Unless you stand up for yourself, then you will continue to get the same treatment and no Yahoo answers is going to solve that problem for you.
Report cheaters to the principal.|||Tell them you%26#039;d love to help them out, but, if you did, you would be the one who would get into trouble. Better yet - tell them you hate cheaters and you%26#039;re not going to do their work for them. Be brave. If nothing else, it will tell you who your real friends are, - the ones that accept what you say. The others that turn away from you, weren%26#039;t your friends in the first place.|||hmmm. If i was in your shoes I would say,
%26quot;Shut up you superficial freaks who dont have half the brain to do your own work. You know how stupid you really are. You%26#039;re gonna end up a human FAILURE. (excentuate failure) Youre never gonna get the rest of your education and youre gonna be one of those homeless people pushing around a cart, digging for recycleables. Do your own effing work or is it that you know that you are gonna fail you pathetic leech. A parasite, thats what you are. A pathetic leech who feeds off of other people because you have no brain. (By this time if they arent already backing off or looking mad continue and make up some more.)
Then turn your back and smile and say %26quot;See ya.%26quot; If you suspect that you might get jumped or beat up, learn self defense. (I actually took ballet and that sorta helped.) ^_^|||No one can take your answers, your study guide or anything else without your permission.
Just say no. Works for drugs. Works for homework too.
Next time you do your homework, do two versions. The one that available for them to copy and the one you pull out of your pack and turn in when the teacher asks.
When they accuse you of doing something wrong to them, just say %26#039;bite me%26#039; (or whatever passes for that these days) Do your own work.|||Why don%26#039;t you just start giving them the wrong answers?
Have a fake homework for them to steal and copy.
%26#039;Correct%26#039; their answers incorrectly ... or don%26#039;t correct them, but say they%26#039;re fine.
Give them study guides riddled with errors.
Tell them the wrong answers to homework or tests.
Write them a poor concluding paragraph.
Draw them inaccurate diagrams.
Tell people their bad essays are fine.
I know it seems harsh, but when they get a few bad marks they%26#039;ll learn they can%26#039;t just use you and have to do it themselves. Years ago, I had someone who constantly copied my spelling tests; one day, I spelt them all incorrectly. She copied the incorrect ones, but I quickly changed them. She got 0, whilst I got 10/10. She doesn%26#039;t copy anymore.
I%26#039;m like you: I%26#039;m always fine with helping people. I get together with people in study periods if they ask for some help with homework, I even invite them to my home during holidays for some help if they want it. But I never do the work for them, just go through the method.
It doesn%26#039;t sound as if they people you %26#039;help%26#039; really appreciate it. I know, I know - a good deed is its own reward ... but it%26#039;s nice to think someone really appreciated what you did. Luckily, the people I help do, even though they did all the hard word - I didn%26#039;t sit there in the exam, telling them the answers.
So yes, that%26#039;s what I would do - remove the source of their good marks until they stop mercilessly using you and begin to appreciate any help you do give them.|||yea when I was in high school I used to cheat a lot and copy everyone else%26#039;s papers too. I didn%26#039;t harass anyone about it though|||Easy start giving them the wrong answer and problems and when they start getting bad grades they will leave you alone.
last year everyone used me.
people would just grab my homework and start copying when they didnt do it last night
when i correct homework then say i have to give them a 100%
when there is a test people steal my study guides or they demand i print a copy for them
i get frequent calls on how to do our homework (mostly %26quot;what are the answers%26quot;), i eventually changed my voicemail so it sounds like i changed my phone number.
if i have 2nd period math and someone has 4th, they ask me what are the questions/answers to the math test
during english when people need a conclusion paragraph or something and we have to turn something in NOW, i write one for them, then the teacher compliments THEM when she reads them and that person acts like she was a genius
people ask me to do drawings in projects and stuff becuase they claim they suck but um i kind of have a life and need to finish my project too?
i frequently rewrite my friend%26#039;s essays (they are really bad) but she doesnt seem to remember or care... i kind of ditched her since she used me so much xD
looking back at all this I admit i was a stupid idiot to be such a pushover, but people are still going to bother me next year, i need a way to tell them to eff off.
i mean i don%26#039;t mind helping people but i kind of think i%26#039;m helping them cheat by doing their work and i hate cheaters..|||Yes, you have become the easy option: %26quot;Just ask Ally.%26quot; It%26#039;s easy to do, isn%26#039;t it? Part of why is because it%26#039;s an ego stroke for you to help other people, to know the answers and be known as knowing the answers. Aren%26#039;t you a little bit worried that if you stop sharing your brilliance people aren%26#039;t going to like you any more? I%26#039;m afraid it%26#039;s a burden you are going to have to bear. You can%26#039;t just stop helping people, since some of them might genuinely need your help. However, you can thin the ranks by saying this: %26quot;Mr/Ms X told me that she knew I was doing other students%26#039; work and that if it continued, she would mark me down for cheating and I%26#039;m not prepared to take that risk, sorry.%26quot; Rewrite this so it sounds natural for you and stick to it. Good luck.|||You brought this on yourself by allowing it, and allowing them to get away with such activity.
Unless you stand up for yourself, then you will continue to get the same treatment and no Yahoo answers is going to solve that problem for you.
Report cheaters to the principal.|||Tell them you%26#039;d love to help them out, but, if you did, you would be the one who would get into trouble. Better yet - tell them you hate cheaters and you%26#039;re not going to do their work for them. Be brave. If nothing else, it will tell you who your real friends are, - the ones that accept what you say. The others that turn away from you, weren%26#039;t your friends in the first place.|||hmmm. If i was in your shoes I would say,
%26quot;Shut up you superficial freaks who dont have half the brain to do your own work. You know how stupid you really are. You%26#039;re gonna end up a human FAILURE. (excentuate failure) Youre never gonna get the rest of your education and youre gonna be one of those homeless people pushing around a cart, digging for recycleables. Do your own effing work or is it that you know that you are gonna fail you pathetic leech. A parasite, thats what you are. A pathetic leech who feeds off of other people because you have no brain. (By this time if they arent already backing off or looking mad continue and make up some more.)
Then turn your back and smile and say %26quot;See ya.%26quot; If you suspect that you might get jumped or beat up, learn self defense. (I actually took ballet and that sorta helped.) ^_^|||No one can take your answers, your study guide or anything else without your permission.
Just say no. Works for drugs. Works for homework too.
Next time you do your homework, do two versions. The one that available for them to copy and the one you pull out of your pack and turn in when the teacher asks.
When they accuse you of doing something wrong to them, just say %26#039;bite me%26#039; (or whatever passes for that these days) Do your own work.|||Why don%26#039;t you just start giving them the wrong answers?
Have a fake homework for them to steal and copy.
%26#039;Correct%26#039; their answers incorrectly ... or don%26#039;t correct them, but say they%26#039;re fine.
Give them study guides riddled with errors.
Tell them the wrong answers to homework or tests.
Write them a poor concluding paragraph.
Draw them inaccurate diagrams.
Tell people their bad essays are fine.
I know it seems harsh, but when they get a few bad marks they%26#039;ll learn they can%26#039;t just use you and have to do it themselves. Years ago, I had someone who constantly copied my spelling tests; one day, I spelt them all incorrectly. She copied the incorrect ones, but I quickly changed them. She got 0, whilst I got 10/10. She doesn%26#039;t copy anymore.
I%26#039;m like you: I%26#039;m always fine with helping people. I get together with people in study periods if they ask for some help with homework, I even invite them to my home during holidays for some help if they want it. But I never do the work for them, just go through the method.
It doesn%26#039;t sound as if they people you %26#039;help%26#039; really appreciate it. I know, I know - a good deed is its own reward ... but it%26#039;s nice to think someone really appreciated what you did. Luckily, the people I help do, even though they did all the hard word - I didn%26#039;t sit there in the exam, telling them the answers.
So yes, that%26#039;s what I would do - remove the source of their good marks until they stop mercilessly using you and begin to appreciate any help you do give them.|||yea when I was in high school I used to cheat a lot and copy everyone else%26#039;s papers too. I didn%26#039;t harass anyone about it though|||Easy start giving them the wrong answer and problems and when they start getting bad grades they will leave you alone.
How to hide your home address from stalkers?
I have a stalker I guess you could say? I received very detailed and creepy text msgs from someone today saying I see you neigbor and telling me what I was wearing so I knew they actually could see me. With a little prying I found out who it was, an old friends ex bf. He made some very disturbing comments about my face being all over online, and that my address was even on there! Im terrified! I do have a facebook but it is set to private and I mean private! No one can msg me, no one can look me up, I have spent a great deal of time making sure that it is very private. I dont know if he was lying or what but everything he said was the truth, he knew way to much and when he saw me he was by my apt!! How can I find out if my address is online? Or if there are pictures of me? %26amp; How can I keep this very personal info private? Changing my phone number this week, and thinking of deleting facebook, I only have 20 friends on there and I really dont want to have to delete it as I love playing yoville on there lol.|||Once your information is on the internet, it stays there, I%26#039;m afraid. If your information and everything was truly leaked, then you can%26#039;t do anything about it.|||I think having a stalker as a woman is very honourable, it means you are so good in some ways that someone spends all his time on you to stalk.|||the first thing is did he ever come into your apt with your old friend, a piece of mail with your address
laiding out is one way a stalker get your personnel info, he might of follow you around getting to know your activities without you even knowing, your old friend could have told where you live to him that%26#039;s all he need,i doubt it was a online thing,contact the police and tell them your problem with this person and save the text msgs so the police can know and talk to this person if you let it go it can become dangerouscat web hosting sites
laiding out is one way a stalker get your personnel info, he might of follow you around getting to know your activities without you even knowing, your old friend could have told where you live to him that%26#039;s all he need,i doubt it was a online thing,contact the police and tell them your problem with this person and save the text msgs so the police can know and talk to this person if you let it go it can become dangerous
Help me if you've ever got your husband or wife to come back?
My husband and I have been married for 7 months and about 3 months ago he left, over some jealousy issues and his family was encouraging the leave. I was helping my sister with the youth group at our church and some of the kids started texting me. The one that the problem was over was a 17 year old male. He said 鈥榣ove you鈥?a couple times, but in my church we say that. I鈥檓 not justifying it because it was wrong, but nothing to leave over. We were together for 5 years, before we got married. My husband left that day (in August). Right after the leave, he told me he wanted to work things out and get counseling. Then about two weeks later, he filed for divorce. He changed his phone number so for about a month, I couldn鈥檛 call him only email, but he would never respond. I called a couple times to his parent%26#039;s house for him and his father said %26quot;stop calling here, WE got rid of you%26quot;! By the way, since 8th grade and dated, his parents never liked me, and didn鈥檛 approve of us dating. Didn鈥檛 even approve of us getting married.
In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don鈥檛 love you anymore. I don鈥檛 miss you. We鈥檙e going through a divorce.
In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he鈥檚 contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don鈥檛 get me wrong, it wasn鈥檛 for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him 鈥淒o you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won鈥檛 come when I ask.
He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn鈥檛 service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.
In December, it鈥檚 gotten better. We鈥檙e talking more, he鈥檚 coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won鈥檛 answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he鈥檚 not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?
Let me know if you have any questions about any detail?
Additional Details
Also, he made a facebook when he left and won%26#039;t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying %26quot;If you don%26#039;t want to talk to me anymore just tell me%26quot;!!
No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.
His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn%26#039;t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.|||You need to give him an ultimatum...it is either you or his parents...I don%26#039;t mean his parents should be out of his life but they should not rule it either...you have to tell him if he cannot stand up to them and be with you (always not when he wants to) then he needs to stop coming over and calling you and follow through with the divorce.
Letting him come back when he wants to allows him to use you (I know it is easier said than done, when you love someone you want every minute you can get with them) it lets him have you and allows him to seemingly obey his parents. It cannot continue in that manner for long...
The fact is his parents are over protective of him to the point of destruction(i.e. your marriage) he has to let them know their place if he wants to have a relationship(marriage) with you.|||listen to Mariah Carey we belong together.|||you asked this question already!!!!!|||Not only have you asked this before, but I%26#039;m thinking the answer is still the same...... neither of you, hon, was really ready to make a commitment in a marriage. You%26#039;re both too young..... babies. You%26#039;re in an uphill battle if his parents don%26#039;t like you from day one, and these people will indeed be in your married life for the rest of it. Surely, sweetie, you are worth more that this crap. Surely.|||aww sweetie, dont put up with this anymore! put your foot down. This guy sounds like the biggest jerk. A 17 year old guy texting you? you didnt do anything wrong! This %26quot;man%26quot; sounds very selfish and he probaly thinks he made a big mistake. I wouldnt try to make this marriage work. I know it hurts but you must realize that you deserve so much better. You drove to see him and he kicked you out? that is just so wrong and you dont do that to someone you love. I dont want to hurt you anymore but it sounds like he doesnt love you. In this case, stop trying to fight for this because obviously he%26#039;s not fighting for you or this marriage. He isnt worth it, please do yourself a big favor and leave this loser for good. I promise you that there is better.|||He%26#039;s finished with you but likes to get laid now and then and you%26#039;re an easy mark. He%26#039;s taken you from wife to unpaid whore. If you%26#039;re okay with that, fine. If not, you need to cease all forms of contact with him and get on with your life. Maybe a real man will come into it someday.|||WOW you are very naieve and young. You need to get on with your life and leave him behind. You%26#039;re not living you are existing in a world of hope....he made his choice and uses you to HIS liking. Are you that worthless to let someone take advantage of you in that way. Love isn%26#039;t like this and when someone truly loves you, you will think back to this and think my gosh what the he l l was I thinking. Move on hon, and don%26#039;t even think about looking back, you DESERVE so very much more...really!!! good Luck
In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don鈥檛 love you anymore. I don鈥檛 miss you. We鈥檙e going through a divorce.
In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he鈥檚 contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don鈥檛 get me wrong, it wasn鈥檛 for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him 鈥淒o you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won鈥檛 come when I ask.
He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn鈥檛 service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.
In December, it鈥檚 gotten better. We鈥檙e talking more, he鈥檚 coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won鈥檛 answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he鈥檚 not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?
Let me know if you have any questions about any detail?
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Also, he made a facebook when he left and won%26#039;t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying %26quot;If you don%26#039;t want to talk to me anymore just tell me%26quot;!!
No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.
His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn%26#039;t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.|||You need to give him an ultimatum...it is either you or his parents...I don%26#039;t mean his parents should be out of his life but they should not rule it either...you have to tell him if he cannot stand up to them and be with you (always not when he wants to) then he needs to stop coming over and calling you and follow through with the divorce.
Letting him come back when he wants to allows him to use you (I know it is easier said than done, when you love someone you want every minute you can get with them) it lets him have you and allows him to seemingly obey his parents. It cannot continue in that manner for long...
The fact is his parents are over protective of him to the point of destruction(i.e. your marriage) he has to let them know their place if he wants to have a relationship(marriage) with you.|||listen to Mariah Carey we belong together.|||you asked this question already!!!!!|||Not only have you asked this before, but I%26#039;m thinking the answer is still the same...... neither of you, hon, was really ready to make a commitment in a marriage. You%26#039;re both too young..... babies. You%26#039;re in an uphill battle if his parents don%26#039;t like you from day one, and these people will indeed be in your married life for the rest of it. Surely, sweetie, you are worth more that this crap. Surely.|||aww sweetie, dont put up with this anymore! put your foot down. This guy sounds like the biggest jerk. A 17 year old guy texting you? you didnt do anything wrong! This %26quot;man%26quot; sounds very selfish and he probaly thinks he made a big mistake. I wouldnt try to make this marriage work. I know it hurts but you must realize that you deserve so much better. You drove to see him and he kicked you out? that is just so wrong and you dont do that to someone you love. I dont want to hurt you anymore but it sounds like he doesnt love you. In this case, stop trying to fight for this because obviously he%26#039;s not fighting for you or this marriage. He isnt worth it, please do yourself a big favor and leave this loser for good. I promise you that there is better.|||He%26#039;s finished with you but likes to get laid now and then and you%26#039;re an easy mark. He%26#039;s taken you from wife to unpaid whore. If you%26#039;re okay with that, fine. If not, you need to cease all forms of contact with him and get on with your life. Maybe a real man will come into it someday.|||WOW you are very naieve and young. You need to get on with your life and leave him behind. You%26#039;re not living you are existing in a world of hope....he made his choice and uses you to HIS liking. Are you that worthless to let someone take advantage of you in that way. Love isn%26#039;t like this and when someone truly loves you, you will think back to this and think my gosh what the he l l was I thinking. Move on hon, and don%26#039;t even think about looking back, you DESERVE so very much more...really!!! good Luck
LGBT: What would your reaction to this be?
My girlfriend and I broke up almost a month ago, and, because she and her sister were harassing me, I ended up changing my phone number and deleting/blocking them both on myspace and facebook. We%26#039;ve had no contact since the night we fought and broke up, but I forgot that one time I had given her my e-mail. Well, today I received an email from her, saying as follows:
%26quot;i have a question for you. will you be my girlfriend again? i know this probably sounds quite strange. but i need you. and i know ill see you every day at school, but weve gone too far now to not be that way, and we both know i love you too much, and so do you. so why dont we just go down that road again, because the whole point of relationships is to grow closer and stronger together. and when we get into fights like the one we were just in, thats a vital part of the relationship. and belive it or not, that made me love you even more. and i will tomorrow. and it also made me realize how pointless life was without you in it. god, it was terrible. and i wont have it that way again. you will never leave my thoughts for more than a few minutes, and i will never stop loving you. we need to be together. youre too much a part of my life to let go of, in any way, shape, or form.and deep down, you want it too. i know you do. ive never been loved by anyone the way you love me. i know this will work. so, what do you say?%26quot;
How should I react to this? I mean, I%26#039;m pretty sure I don%26#039;t want to get back with her, but...well, how would you respond (emotionally and, to her) about this?|||If you%26#039;re %26quot;pretty sure%26quot; you don%26#039;t want to get back with her then just tell her you need some time to figure out what you want and what you%26#039;re willing to do.
Honestly, I applaud you not wanting to get back with her. If she%26#039;s participated in anything which you consider to be harassing, its just not smart to go back with her. At the same time, however, you probably want to let her down easily because she sounds like someone who might act out if she%26#039;s disappointed or hurt or rejected or whatever.
I think I%26#039;d really take some time and consider how I felt about her, the relationship, being away from her, being with her, all those things and just decide if its something I%26#039;d be willing to work with again.
Good luck to you.|||You can just tell her, you don%26#039;t wanna be with her!
And say how you feel, but not in a rude way!|||I wouldn%26#039;t go back with someone who had been harassing me. It must have been pretty bad. If you break up again they might harass you even worse than the previous time.|||I don%26#039;t know how serious your relationship or the harrassing me, but if I was in your situation, I wouldn%26#039;t get back together with her, in fact, I%26#039;d think that she%26#039;s trying to pull a prank on you, I don%26#039;t want to get that idea in your head, but that%26#039;s just what I think, sorry!|||You have a stalker. Take action before it gets out of hand. First the phone.....you changed your number. Now email....and a clingy, needy one at that, in which she claims that she could %26#039;never let you go %26#039;in any way shape or form.%26#039; What%26#039;s next? Camping out under your bedroom window? I%26#039;m serious. Things like this can get dangerous. She is stalking you and you need to do something before it gets ugly.|||I would either ignore her, or email her back and say its too late, she should of thought how much you meant to her before she start acting childish and harassing you. Tell her she burnt her bridges with you, and she%26#039;ll have to just get over you, like you got over her. Say actions speak louder then words, and the last action you go was her picking up the phone to curse at you, and got her sister involved. Shes a waste of your time|||I would just be true to myself and it%26#039;s the best thing to do. You don%26#039;t want to pretend you like her. It will only bring more fights. If you don%26#039;t want to be with her, tell her how you feel.|||Do you really want to go through that kind of verbal abuse again. If you go back to her and then break up again she might verbally abuse you again. I think it is wrong of you to go back to someone that might hurt you again. Don%26#039;t buy into her sob story either. It is just her trying to get some sympathy.|||That message is more than a little creepy. She%26#039;s a stalker.|||She%26#039;s going to have to move on whether she likes it or not. If she really loves you then she wouldn%26#039;t have harassed you with her sister.|||Yea that is a bit creepy but then again she might have realized how dumb it was to break up in the first place BUT if you dnt wanna get back with her then tell her that your feelings have changed and you don%26#039;t wanna be with her. in time ya might be able to be friends but right now no.... or yes if u even wanna be her friend haha....
%26quot;i have a question for you. will you be my girlfriend again? i know this probably sounds quite strange. but i need you. and i know ill see you every day at school, but weve gone too far now to not be that way, and we both know i love you too much, and so do you. so why dont we just go down that road again, because the whole point of relationships is to grow closer and stronger together. and when we get into fights like the one we were just in, thats a vital part of the relationship. and belive it or not, that made me love you even more. and i will tomorrow. and it also made me realize how pointless life was without you in it. god, it was terrible. and i wont have it that way again. you will never leave my thoughts for more than a few minutes, and i will never stop loving you. we need to be together. youre too much a part of my life to let go of, in any way, shape, or form.and deep down, you want it too. i know you do. ive never been loved by anyone the way you love me. i know this will work. so, what do you say?%26quot;
How should I react to this? I mean, I%26#039;m pretty sure I don%26#039;t want to get back with her, but...well, how would you respond (emotionally and, to her) about this?|||If you%26#039;re %26quot;pretty sure%26quot; you don%26#039;t want to get back with her then just tell her you need some time to figure out what you want and what you%26#039;re willing to do.
Honestly, I applaud you not wanting to get back with her. If she%26#039;s participated in anything which you consider to be harassing, its just not smart to go back with her. At the same time, however, you probably want to let her down easily because she sounds like someone who might act out if she%26#039;s disappointed or hurt or rejected or whatever.
I think I%26#039;d really take some time and consider how I felt about her, the relationship, being away from her, being with her, all those things and just decide if its something I%26#039;d be willing to work with again.
Good luck to you.|||You can just tell her, you don%26#039;t wanna be with her!
And say how you feel, but not in a rude way!|||I wouldn%26#039;t go back with someone who had been harassing me. It must have been pretty bad. If you break up again they might harass you even worse than the previous time.|||I don%26#039;t know how serious your relationship or the harrassing me, but if I was in your situation, I wouldn%26#039;t get back together with her, in fact, I%26#039;d think that she%26#039;s trying to pull a prank on you, I don%26#039;t want to get that idea in your head, but that%26#039;s just what I think, sorry!|||You have a stalker. Take action before it gets out of hand. First the phone.....you changed your number. Now email....and a clingy, needy one at that, in which she claims that she could %26#039;never let you go %26#039;in any way shape or form.%26#039; What%26#039;s next? Camping out under your bedroom window? I%26#039;m serious. Things like this can get dangerous. She is stalking you and you need to do something before it gets ugly.|||I would either ignore her, or email her back and say its too late, she should of thought how much you meant to her before she start acting childish and harassing you. Tell her she burnt her bridges with you, and she%26#039;ll have to just get over you, like you got over her. Say actions speak louder then words, and the last action you go was her picking up the phone to curse at you, and got her sister involved. Shes a waste of your time|||I would just be true to myself and it%26#039;s the best thing to do. You don%26#039;t want to pretend you like her. It will only bring more fights. If you don%26#039;t want to be with her, tell her how you feel.|||Do you really want to go through that kind of verbal abuse again. If you go back to her and then break up again she might verbally abuse you again. I think it is wrong of you to go back to someone that might hurt you again. Don%26#039;t buy into her sob story either. It is just her trying to get some sympathy.|||That message is more than a little creepy. She%26#039;s a stalker.|||She%26#039;s going to have to move on whether she likes it or not. If she really loves you then she wouldn%26#039;t have harassed you with her sister.|||Yea that is a bit creepy but then again she might have realized how dumb it was to break up in the first place BUT if you dnt wanna get back with her then tell her that your feelings have changed and you don%26#039;t wanna be with her. in time ya might be able to be friends but right now no.... or yes if u even wanna be her friend haha....
Father who denies your baby?
Ok, I%26#039;ll admit it... I was dating a total a**hole. So I left him and cut off all contact (even changing my phone number, email, etc) but I just found out I am pregnant.
I know if I go to him now and tell him I am pregnant that he will be angry and rude about it. He will deny it for sure and accuse me of being with other people and that the baby is not his, and he will not want to be with me or be a part of anything to do with this child.
Has anyone else been in this situation? Any ideas on how I should go about all this? I don%26#039;t want him to ruin such a happy time for me!|||I think you should let him know. And if he does deny his baby, then don%26#039;t contact him again.|||Why bother? If you%26#039;re happy, have your child and raise him/her.|||i wouldn%26#039;t tell him right know i would wait until you had the baby so you can make him take a dna test to prove to him its his baby|||just tell him, and if he denies it get a blood test done. if the baby is his, he will have to pay for it, but if its not you will. and also, it will be his loss if he wants to miss out on a little miracle. good luck and congrats.|||You can prove paternity with DNA testing, and then he can legally give up all rights. It sounds like that shouldn%26#039;t be a problem.|||I%26#039;ll will suggest you to tell him... but don%26#039;t go by yourself. Go with someone you trust... if his rude well just leave it and enjoy your pregnancy... Congratulations God bless you!!!!|||if you know his contact info.. wait until the baby is born, have a police officer serve him papers to court.. when the DNA test comes back, he will have to pay for it, if he ha denied the child is his, and he will have to make payments..
but remember, him denying that it is his, will help you earn full custody.
his child support payments will come off his cheque from work so you wont miss any|||since he%26#039;s an asshole and you decide to left him. You want nothing to do with him anymore but now why would you want him to be with you? (that%26#039;s what you wrote)
Tell him that you%26#039;re pregnant with his child. If he deny, request a dna test after the baby%26#039;s born.|||My daughters dad was with me and just because i was talking to other guys he asked for a DNA test the asshole.. The whole pregnancy was a continuous fight between us.. He saw her at 6 wks and saw him in her so that was the end of that he sees her every 2 months if not more.
I am 10w2d with my 2nd. different dad bt this one is refusing to believe the baby is his. he says its medically impossible to get someone pregnant. So all i am going to do is just leave him out of the picture. If he pulls his head in and actually wannts a part of bubs life he can if not then its his loss
There isnt much u can do. Just tell him and when bub comes you have 2 choices
1. Go thru child support and make hiim get a DNA test, Or
2. Let him decide how he wants to go. There isnt much you can do.
Some guys are just assholes. Bub only needs one parent to love them.
At the end of the day its your decision.
You might be suprised. If he was an asshole to you before u were pregnant do you really think he will change when u have a baby.,|||I think its best to not get the courts involved unless you need the child support. If hes a angry and mean person then you should just feel bad for him because he hates himself and his life and he is emotionally immature. My babys father is a jerk and is exactly what you described. I contacted him and told him and he has ignored me. I kept messaging him and everything and being nice to him when he was mean to me, over and over again i just encouraged him to be in his life. Regardless how mean he is, you should try your best to be nice to him and give him love. Thats what he needs is love anyway, otherwise he wouldnt act like he is. Im not saying let him walk all over you, but im saying be mature and have a adult loving relationship with this guy.After months and months of him being a jerk and/or ignoring me he finally came around a few times. His heart melted when he saw his baby, deep down they know its their baby. And i totally understand that your happy right now and thats awesome, but that baby is going to have a hole in his/her heart if she/he doesnt know who their blood father is or what he looks like or anything like that.|||let a summons tell him. if you answer a few questions about your relationship with him to a court and they determine that it is likely he is the father of your baby they can court order a paternity test that he can%26#039;t weasel his way out of. if he%26#039;s an asshole all he%26#039;s going to do is try and convince you to abort and make you feel bad about being pregnant (been there done that) through the whole 40 weeks. if he%26#039;s proven to be the father than he%26#039;ll have to pay child support and it will grant him the right to visitation although it is unlikely he%26#039;ll use it. he should know eventually but don%26#039;t let him ruin your special time.|||im 13 and have a 14 month old son i didn%26#039;t tell my baby%26#039;s dad until he was 1 month old his dad is a complete asshole to . now he is in prison.|||i would be sooo distressed having to bring up a child on my own..good luck, i don%26#039;t envy your situation at all..
I know if I go to him now and tell him I am pregnant that he will be angry and rude about it. He will deny it for sure and accuse me of being with other people and that the baby is not his, and he will not want to be with me or be a part of anything to do with this child.
Has anyone else been in this situation? Any ideas on how I should go about all this? I don%26#039;t want him to ruin such a happy time for me!|||I think you should let him know. And if he does deny his baby, then don%26#039;t contact him again.|||Why bother? If you%26#039;re happy, have your child and raise him/her.|||i wouldn%26#039;t tell him right know i would wait until you had the baby so you can make him take a dna test to prove to him its his baby|||just tell him, and if he denies it get a blood test done. if the baby is his, he will have to pay for it, but if its not you will. and also, it will be his loss if he wants to miss out on a little miracle. good luck and congrats.|||You can prove paternity with DNA testing, and then he can legally give up all rights. It sounds like that shouldn%26#039;t be a problem.|||I%26#039;ll will suggest you to tell him... but don%26#039;t go by yourself. Go with someone you trust... if his rude well just leave it and enjoy your pregnancy... Congratulations God bless you!!!!|||if you know his contact info.. wait until the baby is born, have a police officer serve him papers to court.. when the DNA test comes back, he will have to pay for it, if he ha denied the child is his, and he will have to make payments..
but remember, him denying that it is his, will help you earn full custody.
his child support payments will come off his cheque from work so you wont miss any|||since he%26#039;s an asshole and you decide to left him. You want nothing to do with him anymore but now why would you want him to be with you? (that%26#039;s what you wrote)
Tell him that you%26#039;re pregnant with his child. If he deny, request a dna test after the baby%26#039;s born.|||My daughters dad was with me and just because i was talking to other guys he asked for a DNA test the asshole.. The whole pregnancy was a continuous fight between us.. He saw her at 6 wks and saw him in her so that was the end of that he sees her every 2 months if not more.
I am 10w2d with my 2nd. different dad bt this one is refusing to believe the baby is his. he says its medically impossible to get someone pregnant. So all i am going to do is just leave him out of the picture. If he pulls his head in and actually wannts a part of bubs life he can if not then its his loss
There isnt much u can do. Just tell him and when bub comes you have 2 choices
1. Go thru child support and make hiim get a DNA test, Or
2. Let him decide how he wants to go. There isnt much you can do.
Some guys are just assholes. Bub only needs one parent to love them.
At the end of the day its your decision.
You might be suprised. If he was an asshole to you before u were pregnant do you really think he will change when u have a baby.,|||I think its best to not get the courts involved unless you need the child support. If hes a angry and mean person then you should just feel bad for him because he hates himself and his life and he is emotionally immature. My babys father is a jerk and is exactly what you described. I contacted him and told him and he has ignored me. I kept messaging him and everything and being nice to him when he was mean to me, over and over again i just encouraged him to be in his life. Regardless how mean he is, you should try your best to be nice to him and give him love. Thats what he needs is love anyway, otherwise he wouldnt act like he is. Im not saying let him walk all over you, but im saying be mature and have a adult loving relationship with this guy.After months and months of him being a jerk and/or ignoring me he finally came around a few times. His heart melted when he saw his baby, deep down they know its their baby. And i totally understand that your happy right now and thats awesome, but that baby is going to have a hole in his/her heart if she/he doesnt know who their blood father is or what he looks like or anything like that.|||let a summons tell him. if you answer a few questions about your relationship with him to a court and they determine that it is likely he is the father of your baby they can court order a paternity test that he can%26#039;t weasel his way out of. if he%26#039;s an asshole all he%26#039;s going to do is try and convince you to abort and make you feel bad about being pregnant (been there done that) through the whole 40 weeks. if he%26#039;s proven to be the father than he%26#039;ll have to pay child support and it will grant him the right to visitation although it is unlikely he%26#039;ll use it. he should know eventually but don%26#039;t let him ruin your special time.|||im 13 and have a 14 month old son i didn%26#039;t tell my baby%26#039;s dad until he was 1 month old his dad is a complete asshole to . now he is in prison.|||i would be sooo distressed having to bring up a child on my own..good luck, i don%26#039;t envy your situation at all..
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